Pierced Musie Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 *sends comforting vibes to Pinky, Terje & his sister* *sends hugs as well*
Emmadolly Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 All the best to you and your boyfriend Mer. Aunty Di, i dont even know you as a person, and i dont mean to sound cheesy, but i think about you and Tom a lot. I have two children my self, and that makes me think about other mums and their situation. All the luck in the world Di.
TabbyCool Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 That is such sad news Mar, but I suppose it's good that at least he isn't in any pain. It might sound bad, but maybe it's better like this if he can go without any pain rather than hanging on and going through pain later. It must be awful for all of you, but at least you can take comfort knowing that he is in the company of loved ones and isn't suffering. Hugs to you all.
buffygirl Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 Mar, sorry to hear . . i can't add anymore than the others have You know were here i.. you want too let it all out
MarMar Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 Thanks for all the kind words. They only found out that he is sick a month ago, but the cancer was so far ahead that it must have been going on for at least 6 months. I have said the same to Terje; it's better that he dies without pain, than knowing it for very long and be in much pain before he goes.
Emmadolly Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 You are right, in have found in my opinion, that the later they find out. It is in a way better for the patient. As they dont dwell on it as much. It is very hard to explain,but all bad news is hard to take.
MarMar Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 What makes it worse is that he is so aware of it himself. His mind is totally clear, and he knows he only have a few days or even hours left.
Emmadolly Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 What makes it worse is that he is so aware of it himself. His mind is totally clear, and he knows he only have a few days or even hours left. That is maybe the worst thing, as all relatives hope that when the end is near, the patient has no idea. But when they have all the sence in the world. It can make it 100% worse, for the relatives. I will be thinking about you.xxx
Frankie Posted March 31, 2006 Report Posted March 31, 2006 I used to think that it would be worse knowing...but I sat with my Mum and my gran when my grandfather died....he too knew what was going on...It was remarkably peaceful..serene almost..and in a way it was also uplifting...he chatted and dozed a lot...sort f drifted in and out for a bit...and it just felt right...it's hard to explain...but any thoughts I had about death being something to fear went...I was dreading being there...but in the end I was glad I was...my gran always had this expression ..... "he had a good death"....I think I understand what she means now....
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