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[~Lynd~]

What do you mean people didn't care. Didn't anyone come to see you?

No,not really.That's why i was down.People treat me like crap then expect me to be there for them in their times of need.I'ts better to be alone and have no expectations of people,that's how i feel at the moment,that way you don't get hurt and your not used as a doormat.I'm sick of people taking advantage of me.I'm usually pretty bubbly and open to people but m starting to wonder what's wrong with me and how much i can take.It's abigger problem now then at high school.

[MarMar]

I've had those exact feeling.. Guess that's why I don't have friends anymore, and the ones I "have" do the same.

[~Lynd~]

What do you mean they "do the same"?

[MarMar]

They use me when they need me.

[~Lynd~]

Yeah...i try not to judge people and take each person for themselves,in hope that something will change but it never does.

An example is my so called friend hasn't spoken to me since febuary.I know she'll be back when she needs something and try to make her absence my fault,she's done it before,but she's going to get a shock when i tell her to go jump i'm not her doormat,which she knows i usually don't let people treat me crap,don't know why she thinks she's different.

I think i only put up with it becourse she does it to everyone including her parents.I did like her most of the time,but there's only so much someone who's not blood related can take.

[TabbyCool]

Heavenly Angel, you are really pretty and seem like a really lovely person. I know how you feel about not feeling accepted, when I was at school it felt like I just didn't fit in. My friends turned out not to be such good friends after all, school is a very bitchy place and most teenagers don't really care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to impress others, even if it means putting their friends down.

I know it's hard, but just hang in there and be yourself, if people don't like you for who you are, then it's their loss. You deserve so much better.

When you leave school and go to college or whatever you'll understand what I mean about school being bitchy and shallow, the real world is not like that and those people who think they are great at school will probably crash and burn later on!

Just be yourself, you are a beautiful girl and any guy would be lucky to have you :-)

Remember, if you need to chat, there's always someone here :-)

[HeavenlyAngel]

Heavenly Angel, you are really pretty and seem like a really lovely person. I know how you feel about not feeling accepted, when I was at school it felt like I just didn't fit in. My friends turned out not to be such good friends after all, school is a very bitchy place and most teenagers don't really care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to impress others, even if it means putting their friends down.

I know it's hard, but just hang in there and be yourself, if people don't like you for who you are, then it's their loss. You deserve so much better.

When you leave school and go to college or whatever you'll understand what I mean about school being bitchy and shallow, the real world is not like that and those people who think they are great at school will probably crash and burn later on!

Just be yourself, you are a beautiful girl and any guy would be lucky to have you :-)

Remember, if you need to chat, there's always someone here :-)

Thanks.. that really means alot that someone I havent even spoke to in person can see that im a nice person, what you said has really made me smile.. I just wish people where I live could see im a nice, kind person... I do like someone at school hes not very popular im not sure if he likes me.. I quite like him but I will see how it goes

[Skykat]

I don't know if i'm depressed Merc,It's mainly when i was in hospital.....Nobody semed to care and that's when i startd to feel a bit down.

I can really sympathise with you on this. When I was at school I was bullied pretty badly and I'd always been insecure but it got so bad that I stopped eating. I weighed under seven stone and was below a size six but it took nearly a year and a half for anybody to notice. Looking back now, having had specialised treatment and years of counselling I can see that by starving myself what I really wanted was attention. The fact that nobody noticed how sick I was only made the problem much worse. It was a guy I knew fairly well who realised what was going on and he went out of his way to build my confidence up, he still does but without him making me feel good about myself I don't think I could have got through what I did. Now he's my best friend and I'd be lost without him but at the time I knew him fairly well but I wouldn't have classed him as a close friend. The people I would have classed as close friends, including my family in this, never noticed that anything was up until it was almost too late and that hurts big style.

Yeah...i try not to judge people and take each person for themselves,in hope that something will change but it never does.

An example is my so called friend hasn't spoken to me since febuary.I know she'll be back when she needs something and try to make her absence my fault,she's done it before,but she's going to get a shock when i tell her to go jump i'm not her doormat,which she knows i usually don't let people treat me crap,don't know why she thinks she's different.

I think i only put up with it becourse she does it to everyone including her parents.I did like her most of the time,but there's only so much someone who's not blood related can take.

Because of my own insecurities I always want people to like me and I have always taken it personally when people don't. Since school I've moved away from the group I used to hang around with and made new friends but when I first met these new people I went out of my way to be nice to them. Over the past few years I've made huge sacrifices for these people I thought were my close friends. One of these girls has been going out with a guy who I hate and who hates me. He treats her appalingly and everythime she goes to leave he threatens to kill himself. One by one he's cut her off from her old friends and at christmas he made up things to turn her against me and she believed him over me. This is the girl I missed an important exam, part of my degree because I took her to magaluf for a week to get away from him. The same person who has practically been living with my family for the past year and who was sleeping mith my best friend (the one mentioned above) behind her boyfreind's back. There wasn't an aspect of my life that I didn't include her in and yet she chose him over me. A few months later she phoned all appologetic saying she had split up with him and she was sorry but I told her that I couldn't forgive the way she let me down, especially as my granddad had just died and I needed her more than ever. I told her to phone me again in three months if she hadn't got back with her boyfriend and I'd see about meeting up for a drink. Two weeks later she was back with him so I was pleased I stuck to my guns. This girl used me time and time again. She had serious problems at home, still has and I excused her behaviour because of it but I think there comes a point when you just have to stand back and start thinking of yourself.

I know it seems selfish but I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can try as hard as you want to please other people but pleasing them will only end up hurting you more when they let you down. Since I've started standing up for myself, not letting myself be used or walked all over the friends I did have have started to respect me more. As a result they're doing more for me and my friendships are no longer one-sided. Obviously there's the few friends I've lost because of my new attitude but I don't class them as real friends because if they were they'd still be around. I think standing up to your friend is the right thing to do and if she's a real friend she'll stick around and respect you a little more. If she doesn't then she's not worth it. Now when I meet new people I don't try too hard, I'm 100% myself and if they don't like me then that's their problem. I'm really lucky that I still have my best friend to boost my confidence when I need him and he's worth a million times more to me than any of my other friends, (I think your boyfriend would maybe fit that category Merc from what I've heard about him) and I guess they're the sort of friendships that are really worth something and the only ones that we should really be bothered about.

Sorry I know that went on for ages but there was a lot I needed to get off my chest and it's cost the NHS and the taxpayers a lot of money for me to realise all this so I think they deserve to know that they helped!

[Penie]

HeavenlyAngel i will always be here aswell as we are going through the same thing at the moment and we are nearly the same age.

[HeavenlyAngel]

HeavenlyAngel i will always be here aswell as we are going through the same thing at the moment and we are nearly the same age.

I know I said this to someone else before but that does really mean alot... im not being bullied or anything but I think people are really mean to me at school.. they just dont take me seriously its like they see me as a joke feel a bit invisible.. oh well I guess they arent worth it but it just hurts... but xxxxxx you seem really nice and I hope to get to know you

Chat to you soon hun xxx