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[Emmadolly]

I used to use Directions, but I am currently trying Special Effects out.

We can get that easily here. If you are ever stuck, i will send you it.

[TabbyCool]

Heavenly Angel, you are really pretty and seem like a really lovely person. I know how you feel about not feeling accepted, when I was at school it felt like I just didn't fit in. My friends turned out not to be such good friends after all, school is a very bitchy place and most teenagers don't really care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to impress others, even if it means putting their friends down.

I know it's hard, but just hang in there and be yourself, if people don't like you for who you are, then it's their loss. You deserve so much better.

When you leave school and go to college or whatever you'll understand what I mean about school being bitchy and shallow, the real world is not like that and those people who think they are great at school will probably crash and burn later on!

Just be yourself, you are a beautiful girl and any guy would be lucky to have you :-)

Remember, if you need to chat, there's always someone here :-)

Thanks.. that really means alot that someone I havent even spoke to in person can see that im a nice person, what you said has really made me smile.. I just wish people where I live could see im a nice, kind person... I do like someone at school hes not very popular im not sure if he likes me.. I quite like him but I will see how it goes

The boy you like, is he very shy? Are you particularly friendly with him or is he just someone you kind of know but admire from afar? You should try talking to him, start out as friends and you should get a better idea of whether or not he likes you. He probably doesn't even realise you like him, which would mean you might have to make the first move.

[HeavenlyAngel]

Well I have I.T with him and sit next to him.. in I.T we chat quite alot but not in the playground much.. I think there is a possibility he MIGHT like me.. I think maybe he is scared to chat to me in the playground because he will need an excuse to talk to me if you understand what I mean?

We get on quite well and have such a laugh but maybe he is just being friendly because none of my friends took I.T so I dont really have anyone to chat to...

I think he is shy but I think he tried to hide it by his sense of humour... I dont think he does like me.. he had a gf in the holidays but she dumped him in the holidays... I got a few vibes from him that he likes me.. just small things really.. but he doesnt go out of his way to speak to me except for in I.T so that makes me unsure.. people asked me if he liked me a while back but he kinda just avoided the question then he said "no" but he was really red.... I want to know if he likes me without anyone knowing I like him because I havent even told my friends I like him...

I do like him but I wouldnt be absolutely devastated if he didnt like me because Ive been through crap with lads before and I expect the worse to be honest.. I dont think about him all the time, im not madly in love with him or anything but I do like him

[TabbyCool]

When I was at school I got asked out by a boy I hardly spoke to, he was in my class and was really nice. If I remember correctly, he got someone else to ask me out for him (something that only ever happens in school!). We went out for about 6 months.

Just shows that sometimes people who you don't know very well might be interested but don't really know what to do about it.

I never ever told any of my friends which boys I liked, they were always talking about who they liked and stuff but I was always too shy. One of my friends always liked the person I liked anyway, so if I said I liked them too they'd think I was trying to move in on their territory, so to speak.

[Gypsy & Will Fan]

I also know how you feel heavenlyangel, it was the same for me at school, people used to get up from the table when I put my tray down in the canteen, or make referennces about my walking "Oh look its 'spastic Penny'. So to make them like me, I used to buy them stuff, used to get them anything they wanted but it was a waste of time they still, bullied me, still pushed me down the stairs took my crutches away from me, flushed my head down the toilet, they still did everything to make my life as miserable as possible.

The sad thing is they succeed, they made me a reculuse if I do go out it has to be with my mum or sis or brother, they made me hate myself and only now I'm beginning to like myself.

[Jess]

I've got Cerebral Palsy (a fairly mild condition that affects my legs) and in 1st year (Year 7), I had a lot of time off school for major surgery. As a result of this I was hardly ever in school and since, people have told me that I was viewed as the 'spoilt brat' of the class 'cos I needed so much extra help carrying books and getting people to push my wheelchair - I think people thought I was in it for the attention. As a result, although I have 2 friends who mean the world to me, I've never really felt like I've 'fitted in' at school, it doesn't really 'help' that I don't go out and get hammered regularly or sleep with randomers like a lot of the girls in my class. Even now, I still get bitchy comments along the lines of, 'Oh well Jess, if you're having a bad day, just go back to the hospital so you can get the attention back on yourself'. I try not to let it bother me anymore (and at the end of the day, I'm in my final week of Year 11 and thankfully most of the bitchy people will be gone on Friday), 'cos I have got supportive friends, but just to say, that I know what you guys are all going through and I'm here to talk if you want to (how much good I'll be I don't really know though LOL).

XxX

Edit: Penny, I know what it's like, people have turned round to me and said. 'Spaz'....I just wanted to punch them. It really annoys me when people use that word in general conversation, I don't think they understand how offensive it can be to some people.

Anyway girls, I'm off to bed now, thank you for listening to my last moany post LOL

Night night

XxX

[Gypsy & Will Fan]

I've got Cerebral Palsy (a fairly mild condition that affects my legs) and in 1st year (Year 7), I had a lot of time off school for major surgery. As a result of this I was hardly ever in school and since, people have told me that I was viewed as the 'spoilt brat' of the class 'cos I needed so much extra help carrying books and getting people to push my wheelchair - I think people thought I was in it for the attention. As a result, although I have 2 friends who mean the world to me, I've never really felt like I've 'fitted in' at school, it doesn't really 'help' that I don't go out and get hammered regularly or sleep with randomers like a lot of the girls in my class. Even now, I still get bitchy comments along the lines of, 'Oh well Jess, if you're having a bad day, just go back to the hospital so you can get the attention back on yourself'. I try not to let it bother me anymore (and at the end of the day, I'm in my final week of Year 11 and thankfully most of the bitchy people will be gone on Friday), 'cos I have got supportive friends, but just to say, that I know what you guys are all going through and I'm here to talk if you want to (how much good I'll be I don't really know though LOL).

XxX

Edit: Penny, I know what it's like, people have turned round to me and said. 'Spaz'....I just wanted to punch them. It really annoys me when people use that word in general conversation, I don't think they understand how offensive it can be to some people.

I know, I have Dyspraxia which the doctors say is a very mild form of Cerebral Palsy, and I can walk but I get tired very easily so sometimes I need to use crutches and I need extra help because I was very slow at writing and taking in information, so people used to say I cheated, but when ever the support teachers back was turned they used to nick my crutches hide them, or if they saw me walking down the stairs they used to trip me up and they caused me to brake my arm. I used to cry myself to sleep everynight, just wishing I would never wake up, they made me hate myself, hate the life I lived they took away everything I ever wanted in life. I wanted to be excepted.

[HeavenlyAngel]

When I was at school I got asked out by a boy I hardly spoke to, he was in my class and was really nice. If I remember correctly, he got someone else to ask me out for him (something that only ever happens in school!). We went out for about 6 months.

Aww that is really cute.. but boys nowdays dont tell their mates when they like a girl because they are worried what their mates will say, well most boys in my school are like that.. what type of signs should I look for to see if he likes me? ( I know it might seem obvious to some people...)

To Gypsy & Will Fan your situation was much worse than mine is now.. Im not really bullied I just feel like an outcast... in year 7 I fell out with some "friends" and they made my life hell.. I didnt go to school for months.. then I became really paranoid and I think im alot more withdrawn now than in year 7... ive got new mates now but one of my friends is friendly with them and I feel like she does it on purpose.. I think they see me as an easy target because Ive cried a few times in school because when I moved form a group of lads were so,so horrible to me always making fun of me... there not here any more but I just feel like everyone hates me I feel invisible but I think I hide it well in school...

I hate when schools say oh we have "zero" tolerence on bullying because that is a load of crap.. people get away with murder

[Gypsy & Will Fan]

Even making you feel like an outcast to me is a form of bullying.

Some people get enjoyment from seeing people suffer. I always wanted to be like my favourte charcters in soaps e.g. Gypsy from Home & Away and Kat from EastEnders and tell them to **** off but in reality I just couldn't to it, I was too scared.

I know schools say rubbish when my mum complained about the bullying the school said they deserved an education.

[TabbyCool]

When I was at school I got asked out by a boy I hardly spoke to, he was in my class and was really nice. If I remember correctly, he got someone else to ask me out for him (something that only ever happens in school!). We went out for about 6 months.

Aww that is really cute.. but boys nowdays dont tell their mates when they like a girl because they are worried what their mates will say, well most boys in my school are like that.. what type of signs should I look for to see if he likes me? ( I know it might seem obvious to some people...)

To Gypsy & Will Fan your situation was much worse than mine is now.. Im not really bullied I just feel like an outcast... in year 7 I fell out with some "friends" and they made my life hell.. I didnt go to school for months.. then I became really paranoid and I think im alot more withdrawn now than in year 7... ive got new mates now but one of my friends is friendly with them and I feel like she does it on purpose.. I think they see me as an easy target because Ive cried a few times in school because when I moved form a group of lads were so,so horrible to me always making fun of me... there not here any more but I just feel like everyone hates me I feel invisible but I think I hide it well in school...

I hate when schools say oh we have "zero" tolerence on bullying because that is a load of crap.. people get away with murder

Boys nowadays?!? You'd think I was ancient or something! I'm only 23, believe me, boys now are exactly as they were when I was at school! Usually they don't tell their male friends, girls manage to get the information out of them then they tell their friends. It was most likely one of my own friends who asked me out on his behalf, that happened to me a couple of times at school, boys don't tend to ask girls out directly, they are too shy and embarrassed incase they get turned down.

Penny and Jess, I can't believe how awful people were to you both at school! Do they think that people enjoy having a disability? I mean, why would you be "in it for the attention"??? It's ridiculous, some people definitely need their heads checking! Seriously, you girls are both better off without them (I know you know that already, but it's so true!). Neither of you have any reason to hate yourselves, you are both wonderful young women who deserve to be treat with respect. Those bullies should be ashamed of themselves, kids can be so cruel sometimes.