Elise Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 oh I'm sorry hun! *hugs* I know that it's hard though, I only have one ex that I have managed to keep as my friend, and that's only because we rarely see eachother so it's fine when we first hang out because then it's so long since we've seen eachother that we have something to talk about.. But I doubt that will happen now.. oh well... not that much that I can do about it now.. And it's better this way as it was bound to end soon anyway... That's the spirit hun! Trust me on this, you ARE better off! It will take awhile, but you will realise. I have only just come to the relisation now, after all he did, it was emotional abuse to me. Plus I was cheated on too, by someone from my basketball team. And if I can see that I am better off, you will too, I can guarantee it! Just get out there, have fun, and try not to think about it too much (hard I know, but you CAN do it!). This thread is so PMT.
Megina Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 I'm so sorry for you hun *hugs* Thanks so much for all your support! It really helps You've made it a little easier for me! So thank you!
Elise Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 No worries Megina! As long as you know where to go if you need to talk/vent. I'll be okay, the worst of it is over, it just still kinda tears me up inside knowing they are still together. But you know what? She is probably putting up with that same crap, and I don't feel sorry for her at all, since she knew what she was doing when she was sleeping with my ex while I was with him! Besides, the best advice you can get is if someone has gone through it themselves, as they know from experience. As long as I have helped you, I am one happy chicky!
Megina Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 Believe me, you have! Thank you so much! And your ex doesn't sound like someone you would want to be with, so it sounds like your much better off without him! You don't need a guy like that in your life! It's good to have someone to talk to and especially someone who knows what they are talking about And just so you know, I'm here if you need to talk
Elise Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 Thanks Megina! I really appreciate it! I do tend to get down sometimes, I can be like a yo-yo! It's probably cos it was my first serious relationship, and I always had trust issues from the start, so kinda threw me back a little. But I am enjoying being single for awhile, you really need that, to find yourself again, and I am in that process. When you are truely ready, you will be able to move on. There is no written rule, only you will know it. But when you do, it will just feel right. Right now, I am enjoying myself without the hassle of thinking of someone else, as 4 years is a long time, and you do tend to lose yourself, so this is still part of my healing process! Keep me updated on your progress, but I know you will come out of this smiling and extremely happy! -Keep Smiling- Leasy.
MarMar Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 Know how you feel, Elise. I've grown up in a very unstable and violent home. I don't really trust anyone, so when my ex broke up with me, my world fell apart. I was very, very close to suicide and thought I could not go on.
Megina Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 I have a friend who just went through something similar Elise, as she just broke of with a guy that she has been together with for a year and a half (not 4 years I know but still) and I hated seeing her go through that! Still she is much better now and I think it's because she allowed herself to vent and be emotional. I hope you feel better (and it seems like you're well on your way ) I will keep you updated and I hope you will keep me in the loop as well Many hugs Maren
Elise Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 Mar, thanks for sharing. It kinda gives me hope that I can be happy too. You have a wonderful boyfriend, who is so caring. All I have been getting is guys who want one thing only! Grrrr. I'm glad you didn't take the suicide route, you are such a great person, and I am positive you will be surely missed. I think also the reason I am so yo-yo-ey, is becuase I was always the type of person to keep feelings inside, so part of me wants to let it out, but since I grew up with not letting out emotions, I don't let it come out. It can be a constant battle, but I will get there eventially. I just have to take each day as it comes, and try not to worry too much on what will happen. Whatever happens, happens. I will certianly keep you in the loop (as long as you want to), as long as you keep me in yours.
MarMar Posted July 28, 2006 Report Posted July 28, 2006 I'm looping all over LJ, so you should just read there
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