Girls Room

[tracy]

I don't know there's no pain no where else just either side, it's strange

[Frankie]

I'm depressed too ad have been for sometime, I am 27 ad have been trying for a baby for 4 years I scared to go the doctors because I'm a total wimp at blood tests but i guess thats the only way I will find out whats wrong with me. Has ayone else had any similar problems?

Well ignoring it wont make the problem ago away. Both you and your partner need to have a long talk and decide whether you want to get tested...and that means him as well as you ...they usually test the guys first as its easier.... It could be something really really simple, and you will kick yourself if its something simple and vould have saved yourself all this pressure you are putting on yourself.... if on the other hand there is a problem then the sooner you see the GP the better..and remember it's no one's fault if there is a problem....and the previous poster is right..worrying is not going to help.On the other hand it may turn out that there is absolutely nothing to worry about anyway....so you should just enjoy yourselves..sex is about love and intimacy and pleasure...and not just about getting pregnant...sometimes I think people forget that when they are trying for a baby.

[tracy]

Thanks I will go to the gp my husband has had his test and it's fine so i guess it's only fair it's my turn

[Marieh]

Driving in 140 km/h is such a turn on!

To bad he's taken

[buffygirl]

You're not a dunce, Buffygirl! LJ (LiveJournal) isn't a part of MSN, it's a site entirely devoted to peoples' blogs (online journals). If you want to make your own account, go to www.livejournal.com and follow the instructions there. I hoope that makes sense...I'm sure that someone will be able to explain it a lot more coherently than me!

Cheers Jeh-Jehl...

[buffygirl]

I'm depressed too ad have been for sometime, I am 27 ad have been trying for a baby for 4 years I scared to go the doctors because I'm a total wimp at blood tests but i guess thats the only way I will find out whats wrong with me. Has ayone else had any similar problems?

It's been a long while and you can't ingnore it ..i imagine the hardest thing to do is admit there may be a problem but once you both do that you can both be there for eachother whilst you each have the tests done.

Going for the tests will help in a way reduce your anxiety then you'll know for sure if there is one and can take it from there one step at a time. sometimes it can be really something simply .. like hormone inbalance which can be corrected by meds or slight change lifestyle..less stress, as that in it's self plays a big part on messing woth the body.

That's one thing in my mind is with the sedule of having sex at particular times .. The way i see that is extra stress on you both ..just making love because you have too.. its far not the same as wanting to this in its self makes stress.... Make love when you want to feel that emotion and geniune need and the pleasure it brings.

[tracy]

Thanks buffygirl, I've now plucked up the courage to go so now i guess we will see thanks for all your help

[buffygirl]

Thanks buffygirl, I've now plucked up the courage to go so now i guess we will see thanks for all your help

No worries glad to help I'm glad you've bit the bullet "so to speak" as i said one step at a time. good luck!

[Emmadolly]

Thanks I will go to the gp my husband has had his test and it's fine so i guess it's only fair it's my turn

You had really good advice here. I was in the same position as you. I went to my Gp after trying for children for 2 years. I was shocked that i has a appointment within a week to see a fertility consultant, when i asked why i has a appointment so quick, they said it was because of my age, i was 26 at the time. After the initial meeting with the Dr, it was months before we heard any thing. There will be loads of different tests you both go through.

As Frankie said there is no blame on any person at all,, and what got me and steve through it, was our attitude towards it. Yes we were given charts and times to make love, but we decided not to make it to clinical. So if we were not in the mood, then we just simply did not do it. There is a long wait between tests, and their will be many different Doctors to see, who will want to do their own tests on you. In one investigation, under a general anaesthetic, i was told i had polycystic ovarian disease (this is not a disease that can kill you, but just stops you from getting pregnant) . But my god it is well worth it. To make this story shorter for you, i was on a fertility drug for around 2 years, and because it did not work ( clomid). This was given to me 2 years after me seeing a fertility consultant. I was offered another 2 month fertility drug, and it worked. I has a son in 2001. I was told that i would need the same treatment to conceive for another child. But after the terrible time i had giving birth to Elliott, we decided that we would not have anymore. As we felt so lucky to have him. We were totally unaware that while we were having his first birthday party, i was carrying his sister, Abbie. Good luck, and see your Gp, sooner rather than later. The advice i can give you is, it will be hard with tests, and waiting for results, but if you both can except that it may or may not happen. Then as a couple you will get through it.

[MarMar]

*Zzzz* So tired!

Was set up to work 12 hours today + make hamburgers and potatoskins + brownies before we opened. The Boyfriend came by after he finished his job, at 6pm and sent me ome at 9pm to get some rest. Just about to drive back in to pick him up soon.