Girls Room

[lollipop_lover11]

I think you have a right to be upset, when my 2 of my best friends were fighting, I tried to stay out of it and not pick a side. I could see were they were both coming from and just hoped they would work it out.

[halcyon06]

Thanks, I really dont know what to do now!!

[Ashirr-Leigh]

This would probably be more appropriately put in the support group thread but really I just want to have a moan about it so I'll post it in here!

My daughter started school a couple of weeks ago - it kills me that she's at school now! - but yeah, the other mums? Not so friendly. I feel like I'm looked down on a bit, more than a bit, because they still see me as a kid myself. Technically that's not true anyway because I'm 18, lol.. but yeah. I don't mean to sound big-headed or anything but I think I'm more mature than a few of them. I guess people are having kids a bit later these days because most of the mums are in their mid to late thirties and I just am finding it really hard to fit in. I don't want to pass this feeling down onto Ellie because she's just the same as all the other little girls and boys. I just, I guess women can be bitchy sometimes! I see the looks I get when they see me waiting to pick up Ellie or dropping her off.

Getting pregnant so young isn't something I'm proud of but actually having Ellie and bringing her up to be the little girl she is today, damn straight I'm proud of that.. I just gotta keep thinking of that, right?

[Eli]

Absolutely! I never thought I'd say this, but I'm gonna quote the girl I saw in a documentary yesterday, a girl who at the ago of fourteen decided to have children and went ahead with the first and best guy without telling him. With only weeks between the pregnancies she had three children with three different guys before she was 17. She said that people looked down on her but she didn't have to apologise to anyone (now I think it's a bit more questionable what she did, what you did is just admireable).

It's not like I think getting pregnant very early is a good idea, but you can't hide the fact that it happens, and when it does you have to deal with that. You did that, and look how much good that came out of it.

I understand that it can be hard, but if they have a problem with you that's their problem. You didn't decide to have a baby, it happened ad you dealt with it, if they think that's so bad then that says a lot more about them than it says about you.

Hang in there!

[Mez83]

Ash, you're a fantastic mother. The other mother's have no right to treat you the way they do. You should be proud of raising her! At 13 you were faced with something terrifing! And you just went ahead and did it. People are far too judgemental these days.

On a side note: She's at school?! SCHOOL!! She's far too small.....I can't believe she's old enough to go to school!

[Ashirr-Leigh]

Mez, I know!

She's four years old! I look at her and I still see a little baby although she can talk really good and everything and she's so grown up.. ahh! I cried more than she did on her first day at school, lol!

Thanks guys. Eli, I wish I'd seen that documentary, sounds interesting. It probably sounds really stupid to say but I literally can't imagine growing up without having Ellie now. Like, I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I hadn't had her. I should just be able to look at my brothers and sisters, my twin especially, and that should show me what I would be doing but I just physically can't picture it. Sure, my life didn't turn out the way I ever expected it to but I think you just have to get on with it and deal with it. That makes it sound like bringing up Ellie has been a chore but it hasn't, not at all. I've loved just about every minute of it, once I got my head around it, lol.

Oh well, there's a thing at school tomorrow where the mums have to go into the classroom with the kids and just sort of watch how they interact with each other and how they're getting on. I honestly think I'm more nervous than Ellie is. It'll be like I'm back at school, you know?

[Eli]

The documentary is called "Britain's youngest parents" if you want to look it up

[Ashirr-Leigh]

Cheers, I think I will do!

Well I was at school this morning - that sounds so strange saying it since I left over a year ago now! It was alright actually. Ellie's doing really well so that's the main thing, I'm really proud of her! Got chatting to two of the mums especially, one was a bit snobby really. She kept on saying 'No offence BUT..' and then something really offensive like '..teenage mums are what's wrong with our society today.' Eh! She's entitled to her opinion, I suppose. The other lady though, she was lovely. Her sister has just had a baby and she's pretty young so she was really sympathetic. I don't think it'll all be as bad as I thought it'd be.

[Mez83]

Teenage mum's are what's wrong with our society???? Would the drunk drivers, drug addicts, and thoughtless git's be more of a problem?!

[Eli]

I need to rant. No need to read if you hate high school drama. Copy-and-pasted from my LJ.

I am pretty much pissed off right now.

Today I find out that the guy I think of as one of my closest friends has invited pretty much everyone he knows but me to his birthday party (oh dear, that sounded really 6th grade).

I had to find out this because all my friends are invited, even the ones he barely knows.

It pisses me off, cause if he has something against me, then sure hate me as much as you want to, I don't care, but don't act like we're best friends and you like me!

If he had something against me I wouldn't have cared if he invited all my friends to his party, but when he practically acts like he's my best friend for two years and then invite a bunch of people he doesn't even hang out but just happen to be friends of his friends.

My friend (they barely know each other) asked him why he hadn't invited me (before even I knew I wasn't invited) and he made up some excuse that he couldn't invite more people. Fair enough, but my friend (the nice one) thought this was really weird as he barely knows him and said that he was fine not coming to the party if he wanted an open spot so he could invite me instead as they never hang out and practically only know each other through a few mutual friends (that by the way aren't close to any of them), and then he's like "And when did she start caring about my parties?".

I was probably the last to find out, and I think it's pretty weird when all my friends come over to me and ask why the hell I wasn't invited when we're so close. On top of that half of the people he invited have offered to back out if he wants to invite me instead, but still they all seem to still be going (I'm not mad at them). I'm not going even if I get invited now, I don't want to be there if my invitation is based on a bunch of people backing out and telling him to invite me (I didn't ask them to, I didn't even know when they asked him).

Hate me as much as you want, just don't pretend we're best friends and then let me know you choose half the school over me.

He better have a hell of a good excuse, cause this is just plain unfair if you ask me!

I'm really looking forward to seeing him (no school tomorrow, so that will be Friday) and see if he still acts like nothing has happened even when he knows I know everything.

Sorry, I know that was so high school (in my defence, I'm still in high school) and teenage-drama crap, but I just had to rant. It pisses me off when people are fake like that. Sorry if I'm overreacting.