melliemoo Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I always thought my twin brothers would be close but they aren't.
TabbyCool Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I am a twin but I am the smallest, fattest, and cleverest also the oldest by 30 minutes. I am also not very close to my twin sister. We just drifted apart, as we have got older. I very selfishly do not give a stuff about my family. I did not give up without a fight mind you. You can only do so much, can’t you? As I have not seen my real parents since Tom was about 18months old (1993). As far I know my mum who is 48 this year, my dad is erm... 61. Are still living . Do you not get on with your family? I don't see my family that much, mainly because I'm busy at uni and quite frankly, I can't be bothered to go and sit and watch TV in their houses, which is pretty much what they do most of the time! But I couldn't just not see them for so long, I always go see them on their birthdays and Christmas and stuff. My mother would be pining if I didn't see her at least every couple of weeks, she'd be on the phone constantly! My grandma phones sometimes too, that's when I know she really misses me so I make the effort to visit her
Mez83 Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I only go home once a week and that's when I teach dancing so I don't see my parents for long anyway!
Di Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 Do you not get on with your family? My twin and I were brought up in foster care, as my mum was only 14 when she had us. I met my mum and my dad and gran(my mum's mum!!) Don't ask!! who lived together. My Granddad and his second wife when I was 18, we got on okay!!? The cracks soon appeared when I got pregnant, you see there is a genetic disorder in the family, My Uncle, and then it was Tom, then my sister’s youngest son. All had (my uncle passed away in 1973 he was 16)/have Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. As soon as Tom was diagnosed, they did not want to know. I was so upset and hurt; I assumed they would help/guide me, with looking after Tom. Hell no!!, I do not mean to sound horrible, as I have never lost a family member. My uncle had been dead 20 years, for god sake! . Thought they would be there for Tom and me. So for the last 10years it has just mostly been Tom and I. Apart from Toms! Dad’s Mum (my ex mum in law) and ex sister in law and her kids who visit once a month.
TabbyCool Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that Di. You are not being selfish not wanting to see your family, they should have been more understanding and offered you some support, after all, they have experience of the disorder and could have helped out. I think you are right to shut them out, your son is your top priority and the most precious thing in the world and they should have supported you, they obviously knew how hard this would be for you, so they were selfish to abandon you like that when you needed them most. A family like that don't deserve to know you. Anyway, I hope Tom's operation goes well. Take care
Frankie Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 Good luck with hte op and things Di, we will be thinking of you. It will be so quiet around here without you. :Ph
Emma_B Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I am really sorry to hear that Di. I have a little experience with conditions like (and including, actually) DMD and I know how hard it can be sometimes. To do it all on your own with no help from your family must be very difficult for you and Tom. I hope the operation goes well, I'll be thinking of you both. Also, I hope you remember to take some time for yourself! xxx
Di Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 Good luck with hte op and things Di, we will be thinking of you. It will be so quiet around here without you. :Ph it sure will be very quiet!!! make the most of my absense!! I am really sorry to hear that Di. I have a little experience with conditions like (and including, actually) DMD and I know how hard it can be sometimes. To do it all on your own with no help from your family must be very difficult for you and Tom. I hope the operation goes well, I'll be thinking of you both. Also, I hope you remember to take some time for yourself! xxx Gosh it's kinda nice that someone, knows a wee bit whats it like. Thank you everyone . I'll deff try my best in lookin after myself and Tom.
buffygirl Posted March 23, 2006 Report Posted March 23, 2006 I'm sorry aswell to hear your family treated you like that Di. There is no excuse for it, their hiding behind closed doors because they can't deal with life is not perfect. Sorry Di thats harsh but true, me do'nt want to upset you! As for being selfish are you kidding you are the very last person in this that's being selfish, they are, not you girl ok. It must be hard work but you've already shown you can survive i bet you've been a fab mum to Tom. It's you and Tom, but you've got freinds sometime there are a world better than family! Good luck darl for you both, Hope everthing goes fine sure it will have faith. WE GONNA MISS YOU BUT WE WILL BE THINKING OF YOU!
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