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[adellejefferiesxox]

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry Eli, she sounds like a scary woman

[jenlee]

I should probably be posting this in the Support thread, but to be honest I feel more comfortable posting in here.

So, hubby and I have been trying for a baby for a year and a half now with no luck. I posted about eight or so months ago about my periods having stopped but still not being pregnant, however that cleared up for a while. My last period was a month late and we thought it had finally happened and that I was pregnant. No such luck. We've both had the tests done and (unfortunately) my missing periods are caused by a hormone imbalance and hubby's tests weren't great either but have gotten better.

I don't know. I'm not after any miracle advice or anything (I don't really think there's any I haven't heard), I just really needed to get this off my chest. I know there's people who have been trying a lot longer than we have, but it's just becoming really depressing, and it's really getting me down. It's really hard not to get my hopes up that maybe this will be the month, and then get them crushed when my period comes. It's even worse when I'm late and my hopes are right up.

Anyway, I feel a bit better now that I've written all that out.

[~Lynd~]

You're still young so maybe if you relax and not try so hard it'll happen naturally in given time.I imagine the stress isn't good for your body.I hope that doesn't sound patronising.Good luck!

[Barbara]

I agree with Lynd. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. I know it's easier said than done and it's not me trying for a baby. But I know two couples who had to wait for quite some time to be pregnant.

My dad's friend and his wife tried for several years and then decided to have an IVF. They had twin girls. And three years later, she fell pregnant the natural way. They had another girl.

Another one of my dad's friends and his wife had one daughter and tried for a second child but it took them several years to fall pregnant. They had stopped hoping it'd work and suddenly, she found out she was having a boy.

You said you've both done tests and that the results weren't great but you haven't said your doctor said it was impossible, right? So, it means it can happen. Try to relax and not to put too much pressure on yourself. And good luck!

[grumble bum]

I should probably be posting this in the Support thread, but to be honest I feel more comfortable posting in here.

So, hubby and I have been trying for a baby for a year and a half now with no luck. I posted about eight or so months ago about my periods having stopped but still not being pregnant, however that cleared up for a while. My last period was a month late and we thought it had finally happened and that I was pregnant. No such luck. We've both had the tests done and (unfortunately) my missing periods are caused by a hormone imbalance and hubby's tests weren't great either but have gotten better.

I don't know. I'm not after any miracle advice or anything (I don't really think there's any I haven't heard), I just really needed to get this off my chest. I know there's people who have been trying a lot longer than we have, but it's just becoming really depressing, and it's really getting me down. It's really hard not to get my hopes up that maybe this will be the month, and then get them crushed when my period comes. It's even worse when I'm late and my hopes are right up.

Anyway, I feel a bit better now that I've written all that out.

jenlee i know how you feel. I was married at age 20 and wanted a baby straight away but it didn't happen. My periods had stopped for over 2 years and the doctors didn't know why. When my periods did eventually return they where never regular. I was told the only way to possibly fall pregnant was fertility drugs every month. My husband and i didn't want the risk of it not working and the risk of a multiply birth. We gave up trying. One day out of the blue 7 years latter my periods had stopped again i went back to the doctor to find out why and was told that i was pregnant. I sat there in shock. I was told of several doctors even specialist that i could never have a baby. Well today i have a 13 year old daughter who is our miracle child. Hang in there jenlee. Hopefully you and your husband will have your miracle child.

[adellejefferiesxox]

^^ WOW you got married at 20, I can't imagine that happening to me

What I don't understand is how people try and try for a baby then they get the child/children and complain about them and say things like "You can have her/him if you want", saying how they'd be happy to give their child away. I dunno if they're just kidding but it makes no sense to me

Keep trying! Hang in there, if you relax and enjoy the sex I'm sure nature will take it's course!

[jenlee]

Posting this definitely calmed my hysterical self down, lol. I had completely forgotten about it.

Thanks for all the encouraging words. I know it's not hopeless and I need to not stress about it so much, but sometimes things get on top of me and I go a little crazy for a while, lol. Thanks again for what you all said, especially grumble bum. It's really great and encouraging to hear your story and definitely helps me realise all is not lost.

Thanks ladies

[Eli]

I know nothing about this subject, so all I can say is that I hope it works out for you. Keep trying

I have a question for you... But then again it's not so much a question... But not a statement either... And it doesn't really matter that much to me what other people think, so that's not why I'm asking. And I'm not sure I'm asking. But I'm "asking" anyway.

Scenario: guy 26, girl 19... How weird? And I know it's not extremely weird with just the age difference, cause that happens. It's more the.... He owns a house, has a real, proper job, and has been in a long term relationship in the past. Girl is kind of getting very Chandler-esque comittment-issue thoughts since she's still living at home with her parents, working part time jobs to save up for shopping and fun stuff before she goes off to uni.... Hm...

ETA: Oh, and TOTALLY hypothetical btw. I don't even know these people at all, actually. Totally.

[thelonius]

I know nothing about this subject, so all I can say is that I hope it works out for you. Keep trying

I have a question for you... But then again it's not so much a question... But not a statement either... And it doesn't really matter that much to me what other people think, so that's not why I'm asking. And I'm not sure I'm asking. But I'm "asking" anyway.

Scenario: guy 26, girl 19... How weird? And I know it's not extremely weird with just the age difference, cause that happens. It's more the.... He owns a house, has a real, proper job, and has been in a long term relationship in the past. Girl is kind of getting very Chandler-esque comittment-issue thoughts since she's still living at home with her parents, working part time jobs to save up for shopping and fun stuff before she goes off to uni.... Hm...

ETA: Oh, and TOTALLY hypothetical btw. I don't even know these people at all, actually. Totally.

Haha, totally hypothetical Well I think if this girl is honest with the guy, then they should be okay. Maybe over time they'll both be just as committed as one another. Or maybe they won't. But as long as she's not doing anything she doesn't want to, and he is okay accepting that she's not as ready to settle down, there's no reason they can't go out and have a meaningful relationship. She shouldn't have to give up this time in her life where she can be free and have fun and just be young. But if he is looking for someone who is willing to commit, then he should look elsewhere. Either way, if they are upfront about where they stand if either of them have a problem with the other, then it just won't work out. But if they are happy to enjoy it, then why not!

[Barbara]

I have to agree with everything thelonius said.

If this is any help, some of my male friends are 24-25 and they don't want to settle down before they're at least 30. I know not all guys think like that and some are ready to settle down when they're younger. I guess the girl (whoever she is ) has to find out where the guys stands.