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[Emmadolly]

At the moment, I'm finding life a bit lonely. I don't have many close friends and I'm single. Sometimes I wish I had a sister to confide in, I'm not particularly close to my Mum. Since finishing school at the end of 2004, I haven't done any study instead I'm stuck in a job at a service station I don't really like. I don't have much energy and I don't go out much.

Do you have any interest, or hobbies at all, you sound like you need a good night out with your mates.

[Skykat]

This is quite hard to explain, but I seem to have lost all interest and motivation to do anything. I really don't care anymore. I have been dragging myself into University for my seminars, but missing all my lectures. I can't be bothered anymore. I've suddenly gone from quite an enthusiastic student who usually did all her work to someone who really doesn't care either way. I am tired all the time, that doesn't help, but I have no money so I've pretty much stopped going out in the evenings so it's not that.n I'm just exhausted. And I've always got a headache. I don't feel down especially, not depressed, I just have no interest in anything. I'm going to start getting in trouble as I'm not doing my work. I just can't concentrate to do it.

Any ideas?

I was like this for my second year at University, I couldn't be bothered with anything except staying in bed and watching dvds. I went to two lectures all year, did no work, felt tired all the time. I continued to work at my job even though I hated it, lost touch with all my friends, barely bothered to speak to my housemates and I never went out because I had no money and couldn't be bothered. I got a wake up call when I failed half my degree course (I went to Magaluf and only flew back the day before the exam but for some reason I'd convinvced myself I'd pass anyway) but I didn't. I impressively failed and it suddenly hit me that if I didn't do something about it I'd fail althogether. Like Ryan said the novelty factor had worn off so I needed to change things around in my life to make it interesting again. I moved back home in order to cut my costs, this probably isn't an option for you but it was the change more than anything that did me good. I left my job in a city centre night club and got a job working in a hotel pub. It meant that I was no longer working until 4 or 5am in the morning and gave me a whole different group of friends and lifestyle. I forced myself to get back into a proper sleep pattern, stayed awake all day until I was tired enough to sleep in the night and forced myself to get up in the morning. I had a lot of help from my mum who used to wake me up every morning and pour cold water over me to make sure I was up. When I'd leave the house I'd lock my bedroom door and hand my key in to my Mum or my friend so I couldn't sneak back to my bedroom during the day, it meant I had to find things to do to occupy my time and eventually going to lectures became a habit because I was too bored to do anything else. I also started going swimming and I found that it made me feel really healthy and more alert and interested so I eventually started adding more time at the gym. I also made a real effort to start eating healthier and drinking more water.

That was what I did anyway, a lot of that's probably not relevent to you but I'd certainly try changing things around a bit, maybe a new job or a new sport, get yourself back into a proper sleeping pattern, eat healthier and do some exercise and you'll probbably find that your motivation increses of its own accord.

[Emmadolly]

This is quite hard to explain, but I seem to have lost all interest and motivation to do anything. I really don't care anymore. I have been dragging myself into University for my seminars, but missing all my lectures. I can't be bothered anymore. I've suddenly gone from quite an enthusiastic student who usually did all her work to someone who really doesn't care either way. I am tired all the time, that doesn't help, but I have no money so I've pretty much stopped going out in the evenings so it's not that.n I'm just exhausted. And I've always got a headache. I don't feel down especially, not depressed, I just have no interest in anything. I'm going to start getting in trouble as I'm not doing my work. I just can't concentrate to do it.

Any ideas?

I was like this for my second year at University, I couldn't be bothered with anything except staying in bed and watching dvds. I went to two lectures all year, did no work, felt tired all the time. I continued to work at my job even though I hated it, lost touch with all my friends, barely bothered to speak to my housemates and I never went out because I had no money and couldn't be bothered. I got a wake up call when I failed half my degree course (I went to Magaluf and only flew back the day before the exam but for some reason I'd convinvced myself I'd pass anyway) but I didn't. I impressively failed and it suddenly hit me that if I didn't do something about it I'd fail althogether. Like Ryan said the novelty factor had worn off so I needed to change things around in my life to make it interesting again. I moved back home in order to cut my costs, this probably isn't an option for you but it was the change more than anything that did me good. I left my job in a city centre night club and got a job working in a hotel pub. It meant that I was no longer working until 4 or 5am in the morning and gave me a whole different group of friends and lifestyle. I forced myself to get back into a proper sleep pattern, stayed awake all day until I was tired enough to sleep in the night and forced myself to get up in the morning. I had a lot of help from my mum who used to wake me up every morning and pour cold water over me to make sure I was up. When I'd leave the house I'd lock my bedroom door and hand my key in to my Mum or my friend so I couldn't sneak back to my bedroom during the day, it meant I had to find things to do to occupy my time and eventually going to lectures became a habit because I was too bored to do anything else. I also started going swimming and I found that it made me feel really healthy and more alert and interested so I eventually started adding more time at the gym. I also made a real effort to start eating healthier and drinking more water.

That was what I did anyway, a lot of that's probably not relevent to you but I'd certainly try changing things around a bit, maybe a new job or a new sport, get yourself back into a proper sleeping pattern, eat healthier and do some exercise and you'll probbably find that your motivation increses of its own accord.

This is quite hard to explain, but I seem to have lost all interest and motivation to do anything. I really don't care anymore. I have been dragging myself into University for my seminars, but missing all my lectures. I can't be bothered anymore. I've suddenly gone from quite an enthusiastic student who usually did all her work to someone who really doesn't care either way. I am tired all the time, that doesn't help, but I have no money so I've pretty much stopped going out in the evenings so it's not that.n I'm just exhausted. And I've always got a headache. I don't feel down especially, not depressed, I just have no interest in anything. I'm going to start getting in trouble as I'm not doing my work. I just can't concentrate to do it.

Any ideas?

I was like this for my second year at University, I couldn't be bothered with anything except staying in bed and watching dvds. I went to two lectures all year, did no work, felt tired all the time. I continued to work at my job even though I hated it, lost touch with all my friends, barely bothered to speak to my housemates and I never went out because I had no money and couldn't be bothered. I got a wake up call when I failed half my degree course (I went to Magaluf and only flew back the day before the exam but for some reason I'd convinvced myself I'd pass anyway) but I didn't. I impressively failed and it suddenly hit me that if I didn't do something about it I'd fail althogether. Like Ryan said the novelty factor had worn off so I needed to change things around in my life to make it interesting again. I moved back home in order to cut my costs, this probably isn't an option for you but it was the change more than anything that did me good. I left my job in a city centre night club and got a job working in a hotel pub. It meant that I was no longer working until 4 or 5am in the morning and gave me a whole different group of friends and lifestyle. I forced myself to get back into a proper sleep pattern, stayed awake all day until I was tired enough to sleep in the night and forced myself to get up in the morning. I had a lot of help from my mum who used to wake me up every morning and pour cold water over me to make sure I was up. When I'd leave the house I'd lock my bedroom door and hand my key in to my Mum or my friend so I couldn't sneak back to my bedroom during the day, it meant I had to find things to do to occupy my time and eventually going to lectures became a habit because I was too bored to do anything else. I also started going swimming and I found that it made me feel really healthy and more alert and interested so I eventually started adding more time at the gym. I also made a real effort to start eating healthier and drinking more water.

That was what I did anyway, a lot of that's probably not relevent to you but I'd certainly try changing things around a bit, maybe a new job or a new sport, get yourself back into a proper sleeping pattern, eat healthier and do some exercise and you'll probbably find that your motivation increses of its own accord.

Well done you, give your self a pat on your back from me. As i'm sure from what you have written, you would of inspired loads of youngsters in a similar situation. I hope you did pass at the end of your excams.

[Skykat]

At the moment, I'm finding life a bit lonely. I don't have many close friends and I'm single. Sometimes I wish I had a sister to confide in, I'm not particularly close to my Mum. Since finishing school at the end of 2004, I haven't done any study instead I'm stuck in a job at a service station I don't really like. I don't have much energy and I don't go out much.

I've found that when you feel like this the best thing to do is be proactive and change things around. Put a CV together and apply for different jobs; the change will make you look at things differently, it'll open up a whole new circle of friends for you give you different opportunities and you'll probably find you have more energy and want to go out more. Or have you thought about further education - a college course maybe?Another option is to take up a sport or hobby, there's loads and loads of different things you can do, just find something that interests you and have the guts to go for it, it'll give you the opportunity to make new friends, give you something else to think about and probably increase your confidence. If I was you I'd take any opportunity available to meet new people, get new interests or try new things and you might find you'll start enjoying life again.

[Emmadolly]

At the moment, I'm finding life a bit lonely. I don't have many close friends and I'm single. Sometimes I wish I had a sister to confide in, I'm not particularly close to my Mum. Since finishing school at the end of 2004, I haven't done any study instead I'm stuck in a job at a service station I don't really like. I don't have much energy and I don't go out much.

Do you have any interest, or hobbies at all, you sound like you need a good night out with your mates.

Here is your chance to chat to people, that may be able to help you, how old are.

[Skykat]

Well done you, give your self a pat on your back from me. As i'm sure from what you have written, you would of inspired loads of youngsters in a similar situation. I hope you did pass at the end of your excams.

[Emmadolly]

Well done you, give your self a pat on your back from me. As i'm sure from what you have written, you would of inspired loads of youngsters in a similar situation. I hope you did pass at the end of your excams.

I'm not sure about inspiring people, it was really hard though, I had to make a lot of sacrifices- living with my mother for one! But I managed to pass my exams, I've got a great job which I enjoy, loads more friends and I'm pretty happy again now so I guess the sacrifices were worth it.

[caitlin87]

At the moment, I'm finding life a bit lonely. I don't have many close friends and I'm single. Sometimes I wish I had a sister to confide in, I'm not particularly close to my Mum. Since finishing school at the end of 2004, I haven't done any study instead I'm stuck in a job at a service station I don't really like. I don't have much energy and I don't go out much.

Do you have any interest, or hobbies at all, you sound like you need a good night out with your mates.

Here is your chance to chat to people, that may be able to help you, how old are.

I'm 18

[Skykat]

I'm a legal consultant to businesses. I did law at University and hated it but I didn't mind the business law aspects so thats what I chose to specialise in. I love it now; my job is to advise major businesses about legal implications like discrimination, human rights, money laundering and more recently interet liability. It's pretty interesting, the money's amazing, the hours are flexible and I get loads of benefits from the different companies I advise, plus chances to travel, which I love. Probably sounds a nightmare to most people but I love it.

[Emmadolly]

I'm a legal consultant to businesses. I did law at University and hated it but I didn't mind the business law aspects so thats what I chose to specialise in. I love it now; my job is to advise major businesses about legal implications like discrimination, human rights, money laundering and more recently interet liability. It's pretty interesting, the money's amazing, the hours are flexible and I get loads of benefits from the different companies I advise, plus chances to travel, which I love. Probably sounds a nightmare to most people but I love it.

Lucky you, i am a nurse, so i know how hard it is to study, and keep your mind focused. I also have two small children.

Caitlin are you still here???????. If you want to talk about your problems, then we are all here for you.