Support Group

[~Rosey~]

I used to have a side fringe, but now its grown back to normal length of hair.

[emmasi]

Anyone who would stop talking to you based on the music you like or the way you do your hair is not a person worth worrying about. If you're skipping school, however, it might be that this person is concerned about you and is just frustrated with your attitude at the moment. If she's a real friend, then she probably didn't mean what she said... If you get a chance to talk to her, ask her what her real problem is, and maybe you two can work it out.

[rachel&kim]

Do you eat when you're hungry? Do you feel sick after you eat, or do you need to make yourself throw up?

I eat when I'm hungry but not if I [think I] look big or whatever; if that makes sense? I'd be honest here, I probably would make myself throw up, but I hate being sick.

I do feel healthy though, and I'm hardly ever tired. Although sometimes feel dizzy, but that's the days when I eat a cereal bar a day, so kinda understandable.

It's a bit hard to tell from that pic

I know, it's blurry and makes me look a fair bit bigger than I am. You can see the outline of my ribs and the bones on my hips stick out a bit for real though. (And those jeans are baggy, but not in a bad way, they're supposed to be like that )

I guess I'm happy being the size I am, it's just sometimes I feel like I could be slimmer, y'know? Like whenever I lose weight, I wanna lose more, and then more etc. Kinda competative against myself - hard to explain.

Hi, I know that you've already sort of 'closed' this bit of the conversation, I just want to reiterate that you should probably try and talk to someone about this now because it sounds like you might be developing an unhealthy relationship with food.

I'm just saying this as a recovered bulimic who recently went through a pretty hefty relapse, you think you're in control now but it's scary how quickly you can get obsessed with losing weight. I'm not saying you've got a problem, just, I think maybe you should try and talk to a doctor just to sort of, get it off your chest. You don't at all need to lose weight.

Once again, sorry if I'm dragging up old issues, just these things spiral really quickly!

Rosey - you should talk to your friend, she was probably, as emmasi said, feeling frustrated and lashed out, if you talk to her you should be able to work it out.

[~Rosey~]

Problem is, friend always gets like that.

One minute she pretends shes my friend and the next minute she hates me.

[Cerise]

Rosey, my Friends are like that. I just live with it. I have similar problems, am also called emo, used to be a friendly joke but its not now. They also say other really mean things but like I said, I live with it.

[emmasi]

You guys need some new friends

I guess I'm just lucky... in high school my best friends were a Goth, a Pokemaniac, and a Canadian, and we all got along just fine . The only thing I've really ever had a problem with is my depression (people getting sick of my "negative attitude" ) and being a Christian... but even though my best friend is a semi-Satanist, we somehow make it work

[Frankie]

People have great difficulties with things and people they don't understand...if they don't understand it they attack it...like your friend...she does not get it..she is frightened and so she she attacks...families do the same...emmasi and others talked about their families earlier in this thread......I have been trying to dredge something from my memory from doing a psychology module at uni....and I think R D Laing said something about families being the cause of most peoples ills so to speak. ...makes sense to me. I think the line to take is.... "if you love me/ like me...as you say you do...then you will love me/like me for who and what I am and not try to make me into who you think I ought to be and into someone I am not..."..... or something like that... I am not making much sense today.

[Cerise]

You guys need some new friends

Although getting new Friends isnt that easy. Especially when your like me.

If we have a fight I'm the one left alone. If they're out sick or skipping school I have no one to talk to and get dirty looks cus I'm a loner. What is up with this world?

[~Rosey~]

Kat that sounds excatly like me.

You see, at our school we havew all these groups.

I used to belong in one of like 20 and then all those people started to ignore so I changed. I now belong in a group of 5 and every lunchtime they play Uno in groups and always leave me out.

And I got yelled at soccer last week by those epople for misisng the ball.

Now I spend most lunchtimes and recess in the libraries and when its closed, I skip.

[Cerise]

Library. I hide in the Tutor Center. Though I'm scared of getting shot.

That's another thing I get teased about. My obsessions. Thats what they call it. You can't like something around here without being called an obsessed freak.

Anyway, I'm in a group of Four others, and Three of them ignore me and talk about me and stab me in the back.