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[Megina]

Hey.. said I would check back with an update about my "problem" so here I am!

Well... I am better in the sence that the "getting rid of the food" has almost stopped. (have had a couple of relapses but it´s a lot less then it was)

But my problem is that I can not stop craving food and also giving into those cravings... This has caused me to gain weight and made me feel awful about myself so in that sence I am not really better..

Any advice for stopping or easing the cravings?

[Traceve]

I am aware that there are way more important issues concerning other members of this board. Therefore mine will seem rather insignificant. I feel as though I am finally able to post about it now though.

I’m gay. And I came out to the majority of people when I was 17. I’m now 18, but even though I’m out I still feel as though it’s hidden most of the time. I understand it isn’t the most important thing about me, but I sometimes feel as though it’s not worth mentioning. Most of the time I have no problem whatsoever talking or thinking about it. But sometimes, in the past couple of months. I haven’t wanted to mention it, think about it and feel ashamed about it.

I know I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it, but sometimes I do. I tried talking to a ‘friend’ about it, and all she basically said was that I had nothing to be ashamed about then blabbed on about how it isn’t easy being straight either. She was not a help at all.

She’s wrong. It is easier, I’m not saying that it’s a breeze but at least you don’t feel ashamed about your sexual orientation and you didn’t have to come out! (this is besides the point….)

My point is, am I ever going to feel 100% comfortable with who I am?

[KaitieL]

I am aware that there are way more important issues concerning other members of this board. Therefore mine will seem rather insignificant. I feel as though I am finally able to post about it now though.

I’m gay. And I came out to the majority of people when I was 17. I’m now 18, but even though I’m out I still feel as though it’s hidden most of the time. I understand it isn’t the most important thing about me, but I sometimes feel as though it’s not worth mentioning. Most of the time I have no problem whatsoever talking or thinking about it. But sometimes, in the past couple of months. I haven’t wanted to mention it, think about it and feel ashamed about it.

I know I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it, but sometimes I do. I tried talking to a ‘friend’ about it, and all she basically said was that I had nothing to be ashamed about then blabbed on about how it isn’t easy being straight either. She was not a help at all.

She’s wrong. It is easier, I’m not saying that it’s a breeze but at least you don’t feel ashamed about your sexual orientation and you didn’t have to come out! (this is besides the point….)

My point is, am I ever going to feel 100% comfortable with who I am?

You will when you stop worrying about whether everyone is going to accept it. I don't want to sound harsh, but not all your friends/family might not accept that you're gay.

Me, I don't care whether you're gay/straight/bi. We're all people with feelings. And just because you're gay, doesn't change the person you are.

You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. Ever. Don't let anyone change that.

[~Lynd~]

I am aware that there are way more important issues concerning other members of this board. Therefore mine will seem rather insignificant. I feel as though I am finally able to post about it now though.

I’m gay. And I came out to the majority of people when I was 17. I’m now 18, but even though I’m out I still feel as though it’s hidden most of the time. I understand it isn’t the most important thing about me, but I sometimes feel as though it’s not worth mentioning. Most of the time I have no problem whatsoever talking or thinking about it. But sometimes, in the past couple of months. I haven’t wanted to mention it, think about it and feel ashamed about it.

I know I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it, but sometimes I do. I tried talking to a ‘friend’ about it, and all she basically said was that I had nothing to be ashamed about then blabbed on about how it isn’t easy being straight either. She was not a help at all.

She’s wrong. It is easier, I’m not saying that it’s a breeze but at least you don’t feel ashamed about your sexual orientation and you didn’t have to come out! (this is besides the point….)

My point is, am I ever going to feel 100% comfortable with who I am?

You will when you learn not to care what others think and that comes with age and experience.I'm 24 and am only getting there now.I know it's not the same thing but as you know i'm in a wheelchair so i know what it's like to feel like you don't fit into society's idea of ''normal''.What is that anyway ?I'm sure you have friends and family who love you to bits and think you're perfect.You have nothing to be ashamed of and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

If you ever wanna talk you know where i am.We haven't talked in ages .

[Traceve]

Thank you both for replying. Maybe it'll come in time.

[Isobel]

I tried talking to a ‘friend’ about it, and all she basically said was that I had nothing to be ashamed about then blabbed on about how it isn’t easy being straight either. She was not a help at all.

This friend of yours is completely right. You have nothing to be ashamed about. Nothing.. Well, actually you should be...what you should be ashamed about is being ashamed. You confided in your friend, what else could she say? There is nothing anyone can say that will make you feel 100% comfortable. Nothing, it's something you have to tell yourself and feel within. That takes time, but you're holding yourself back by the sounds of it.

Quit defining yourself by society's expectations. You can say that you don't until your blue in the face, but you do. You feel ashamed at times. Ashamed why? Because others are not accepting nor understanding, that's why. At the end of the day, it's your life, and you will only ever be truly happy when you are truly yourself. You can only be true to yourself when you let go of giving a damn what anyone thinks. Like I said, it's your life.

Quit the negative self-talk. The moment you find yourself telling yourself that you're wrong, or ashamed, or unworthy of acceptance....stop. It really is as simple as that, it just takes practice. The mind is a powerful thing, and we as humans are capable of so much more than we ever dare to imagine. Exchange the negative self-talk for positive affirmations. I am worthy, I am who I was born to be, I am free

At the end of the day, those who truly matter and love and accept you for who you are will always be there. And that's all that matters. I wish you well.

[aejdude]

Hey.. said I would check back with an update about my "problem" so here I am!

Well... I am better in the sence that the "getting rid of the food" has almost stopped. (have had a couple of relapses but it´s a lot less then it was)

But my problem is that I can not stop craving food and also giving into those cravings... This has caused me to gain weight and made me feel awful about myself so in that sence I am not really better..

Any advice for stopping or easing the cravings?

Try and control what you eat, go to the doctors or find a BMI chart to do.

Then if you are overweight you can always look in books for diets etc.

[aejdude]

I am aware that there are way more important issues concerning other members of this board. Therefore mine will seem rather insignificant. I feel as though I am finally able to post about it now though.

I’m gay. And I came out to the majority of people when I was 17. I’m now 18, but even though I’m out I still feel as though it’s hidden most of the time. I understand it isn’t the most important thing about me, but I sometimes feel as though it’s not worth mentioning. Most of the time I have no problem whatsoever talking or thinking about it. But sometimes, in the past couple of months. I haven’t wanted to mention it, think about it and feel ashamed about it.

I know I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it, but sometimes I do. I tried talking to a ‘friend’ about it, and all she basically said was that I had nothing to be ashamed about then blabbed on about how it isn’t easy being straight either. She was not a help at all.

She’s wrong. It is easier, I’m not saying that it’s a breeze but at least you don’t feel ashamed about your sexual orientation and you didn’t have to come out! (this is besides the point….)

My point is, am I ever going to feel 100% comfortable with who I am?

You have to just be yourself and forget what everyone else says. If your friends won't accept you for who you are then they aren't really friends are they?

[Di]

Tom has to wear this, for the whole time he is asleep. Tonight

Then, he will be going to the hospital tomorrow. For a couple of hours of respiratory tests. To see how much he’s lung function has worsened. Since the last time he had them done. We will also get the results of, the stats thing he has to wera later. tomorrow while, we are there.

I really hate these appointments, I’m so nervous. As he has got worse with his DMD on the outside. He can do less and less each week.

Its soooo devastating, to watch him get worse. He’s also finding it very difficult to the constant change of his condition. Which I'm finding hard, to see him. Struggling.

I and his respiratory nurse were chatting, this morning about when and what will happen. When he gets worse an needs a ventalator etc... and also when he moves into the adult services, in the next few months to a year.

The main issues I have is, if a when Tom needs admitting to hospital, Where do I stay. Even thou Tom is an adult soon. He still needs 24 care. Like when he was in the Children’s hospital, I can stay. But in an adult hospital there isn't anything like this.

They are trying to educate, the nurses and other staff. That I need to stay etc… As he will so not be able to get the care. He needs. As there is never going to be enough. Staff for one to one care.

Thats one of the number of things. That many of us parents dread is. The big move!!!

[rising-flame]

only one thing i can offer, a virtual hug.