Cal Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 Can anyone help me? my boyfriend of a year and 3 months has split up with me and i really miss him and have been feeling really down and not sleeping and cant eat. We were i thort really good together. I want to get back with him but he wont talk to me about it. What can i do? Thats tricky, I will have a good think about this...
Cal Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 This is going to work..... It may seem harsh but..... Make him jelous(Not sure how that is spelled!) Start flirty with other guys in front of him. He will evantually crack! Have a go!
MarMar Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 Jealousy has proved to not do any good. I have discussed it with quite a few close, male friends, and they say it can make the guy perceive the girl as a "mini-slut". Why go back to someone who doesn't want you enough to fool around with others?
Frankie Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 I know it sounds hard but if this guy does not want to be with you nothing you can do or say is going to change that. Trying to make him jealous, or threatening, or begging is just humiliating I think. I would not want a guy to get back with me out of pity or anything, if he wants to get back with you because he genuinuly cares about you thats OK. But unless he does you have just go to accept it and move on. Go out with friends to the movies, go clubbing with mates etc...don't sit at home feeling sorry for yourself. You had a life before him, and you have a life now if you want it.
Lucy_84 Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 Yea i had a life befor him but its not something i want to go back to! And Im not much of a fan of clubbing.Im not going to try and make him jealous that really would not work. I wish i didnt feel like this but i do. I cant get used to not having him in my life any more. He's being so weird about it tho and he is very stuburn. Witch does'nt make it any easyer. I just really dont know wot to do. I cant stop thinking about it and worring. I cant sit still for more than 5 mins. I miss him so much. A few weeks ago he was saying how much he wanted to spend his life with me and get married but now he just doesnt want to talk or see me. Wont listen to anything i say. Its so hard to deal with. I not dealing with it. Sorry for going on so much.
Emmadolly Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 Yea i had a life befor him but its not something i want to go back to! And Im not much of a fan of clubbing.Im not going to try and make him jealous that really would not work. I wish i didnt feel like this but i do. I cant get used to not having him in my life any more. He's being so weird about it tho and he is very stuburn. Witch does'nt make it any easyer. I just really dont know wot to do. I cant stop thinking about it and worring. I cant sit still for more than 5 mins. I miss him so much. A few weeks ago he was saying how much he wanted to spend his life with me and get married but now he just doesnt want to talk or see me. Wont listen to anything i say. Its so hard to deal with. I not dealing with it. Sorry for going on so much. All i can say is, enjoy yourself as much as you can, until you find the right person for you. If he is the right person for you and you are meant to be together it will hapen. In the mean time dont bother flirting or chatting others up in front of him as he will loose interest in you. If you get on with your life and enjoy it. And this fella sees that you are not buging him and you can manage without him. He will take more notice of you. It is called GIRL power, not will power.
Lucy_84 Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 I think he is the right person for me. He said i was perfect for him and that we are ment to be together but i dont think we will get back together. If i keep trying to talk to him i think it will push him further away but if i dont he will get on with his life an forget about me. It feels like nothing that happend between us over the past year ment anything to him like it was just one long lie. Is ther noting i can say to him?
Mez83 Posted April 5, 2006 Report Posted April 5, 2006 I think he is the right person for me. He said i was perfect for him and that we are ment to be together but i dont think we will get back together. If i keep trying to talk to him i think it will push him further away but if i dont he will get on with his life an forget about me. It feels like nothing that happend between us over the past year ment anything to him like it was just one long lie. Is ther noting i can say to him? I think what you are feeling is quite natural. I've felt like it myself. Give yourself some time. Ask all your girl friends to come and keep you company. Just surround yourself with people who make you laugh.
astogirl24 Posted April 6, 2006 Report Posted April 6, 2006 What is the reason he gave you as to why it isn't working? Does he need space or has he fallen out of love - and if he has just cut you off cold you need to consider the fact that he migh be seeing someone else. This happens to loads of people especially if it's your first love. You will get over it, it just takes time and a lot of tears.
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