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[~Maddie~]

I've never been through what you have been through but with other stuff what has gone on in my life, I have good days and then I get really depressed other days. Sometimes nothing triggers it when I feel like that and sometimes something has happened for it to happen. Do you feel like that?

Reading your first post, its really good you went 6 months without doing it

Yeah I do feel like that, sometimes if my mum ignores me I get really down, or some days I'll just wake up and struggle to get out of bed.

Thanks, yeah 6 months is good but 3 months of that was spent in hospital, with me abusing the staff who were trying to help me and finally coming to terms with what was happening and the effect it had on mum and dad, thats when I began to get help, and when I left I was given a councellor to talk to when we travelled around the world so I could ring him whenever I was feeling down, which at the start was quiet often.

But slowly I began to feel better about myself and there were days where I was very confident, but other days I just wasn't and I struggled so much.

Nut since that day at Mcdonald's I've just been feeling worse and worse about myself!

[Laura]

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[~Maddie~]

Thanks

You sound lovely as well

Well I must head off, mum is calling, probably wants to go shopping again :rollseyes:

Thanks for the chat

[Laura]

Thats allright. And thanks aswell

Ok then, nice chatting to you

[rising-flame]

Hey Maddie,

just wondering how you were doing today? I know you were struggling a bit last week, you feeling any happier? I hope so

[~Maddie~]

Hey Maddie,

just wondering how you were doing today? I know you were struggling a bit last week, you feeling any happier? I hope so

I'm feeling a little better thanks

Mum took me on a shopping spree the other day and bought me heaps of stuff, I think she is feeling bad that she has been spending so little time with me.

So I got heaps of new Summer Gear and new shoes and sunnies and lots of jewelery.

I'm still feeling a little body concious, yesterday was a bad day, I could barely eat without wanting to run to the toilet or I'll sit there and count the calories of the food. And I think my OCD is coming back, today I counted how many calories were in the food I ate and then figured out how much excercise I'd have to do before I could get rid of it

[rising-flame]

just take every day as it comes. It will be hard, but I know you have teh strength in you to win, you've already proved that by doing really well for 6 months. Christmas is always a tough time, don't get too disheartened by things.

[~Maddie~]

just take every day as it comes. It will be hard, but I know you have teh strength in you to win, you've already proved that by doing really well for 6 months. Christmas is always a tough time, don't get too disheartened by things.

Thankyou, my dad will be home tomorrow which I am so happy about, I am feeling anxious about Christmas day

I am just about to post a picture in the 'post your picture' thread so you can see me

[~Lynd~]

My best friend has been going out with her boyfriend for 4 months and last week he was admitted to a Psych ward.She told me last night that when one of the other patients said something about her when she was visiting,staff had to stop him from decking the person.Yes,in a Psych ward,how smart!

Anyway,she also told me that doctors have told her not to get a job for now because they won't let him out unless there's someone to watch him.They also said don't take a step back as family and friends have suggested because he'd take it as rejection.When he gets out he'll go on a disability pension and her on a carers and they'll live in a DOH house.

People thought maybe she should take a step back as they've been together such a short time and are practically married which may have caused this.She doesn't have a job and now neither does he and he took on the responbility for both of them which is quite stressful.But as i said,doctors advised against it.

I'm really worried about her.She's only 20 and shouldn't have to take care of him to make sure he doesn't top himself and she she shouldn't feel pressured to stay with him for the same reason.I've told her as much but she just gets defensive and says she won't and she's not.

She says she loves him but this is her first serious relationship and i'm scared she's looking at it through rose coloured glasses.People with mental illness's often have a ongoing battle with depression.their meds,and are in a Psych ward more then once,etc.She should get out and experience more before she decides she wants her life to be like that.

I'm in no way saying they don't deserve to be happy,they do but i feel like she has no idea what she's gotten herself into and she's only young.We don't know what he might say or do,he's already displayed violent tendencies when things don't go his way,etc,someone says something he doesn't like.

I guess the point of me posting this is how do i support her in something i don't support myself?I feel like i need to try,she's always been there for me when i need her but i have no idea how.If she goes through with this relationship there's going to be some really tough times ahead.She was crying and telling me she missed me the other night but it's her fault we haven't seen each other in 2 months.They want to get married when he gets out and she wants me to be matron of honour...In a wedding i don't support...fun!

I'm not sure if i'm making any sence and i sencerely apologize if i've offended anyone.

I also apologize for the length of this post!

I don't post here a lot but i don't know what to do...i quoted my first post so i didn't have to re explain the situation...He's out and has no job.they're still together and i barely ever see her even though she's down this way a lot to see him.

We went out last night and she said she had to go wait out front for him later so he can give her some moneu because she didn't have much on her but she'll come back because she was going to stay at my place.Well about half an hour after she left i called him to see what was going on and she was with him at a friends place!!!!!I was furious that she would leave me there and not even call so i said thanks for nothing you could have called i've been waiting for you.She hang up on me so i called back really peeved and was going to tell her our friendship is over because i won't be treated like crap and i'm sick of everything being about him,she doesn't have her own life.She didn't answer though so i didn't.

I was in tears,people kept asking if i was ok and it took me 2 hours to get home.

Chances are she'll eventually call and act like nothing's happened but i can't do this anymore.She's changed since she met him,we've known each other for 10 years and she'd never have done this before.I have no idea what to do or say,i thought she was the one person in the world who actually cared and wouldn't use and abuse me.

Olk so i'm back with the same problem...kinda.She broke up with him on sunday and has an avo out on him.

She's staying with me,her parents don't know the reason for the break up because she's embarrassed.My problem is she's raking my phone bill up and sleepinng a lot.Some other friends want me to go to their house on chrissy night and she wants to stay home and sleep.She's also told me she doesn't really want to come with us on sunday night either.She was on the phone for like 3 hrs today to.I don't feel comfortable leaving her home alone but i can't put my life on hold for her either,i told her i don't think she should sleep all day but i don't think she'll listen.

I don't want to sleep on my loungeroom floor all continously and raking my phone bill up.I know she's going through a lot and i feel bad for whinging,but how do i support her without losing my mind?

It's taken me ages to post this because she keeps coming into my room.I told her i was posting about some guy so i feel like i should at least mention that i really like a guy but can't tell him.There you go i didn't lie!

[solaris]

lynd, I'm gonna send you a pm