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[Barbara]

I'm totally hopeless at giving advice but hope that helps! I could probably say that I may need some as well. There are two girls in my class who are so annoying and they are total bullies to the rest of the class. I'm a pretty headstrong and 'aggressive' person and they ticked me off so much that I somehow wanted them to be gone. I know that sounds pretty scary and all that but our class, mainly the girls, have had to put up with that for 2 years! There are people who are with me but sometimes the anger inside just takes over and it doesn't exactly help when all the guys in our class 'love' them coz they're popular and pretty so they're getting encouragement. Ugh my school life is so miserabel!

If these two girls are bullying you and your friends, why don't you talk about it to one of your teachers or a counselor? If you go with a few friends, it won't be so scary and may have a bigger impact. If they're bullies, they have to be punished and your teachers and principal should know about them.

If these girls are bullying you, it's normal to feel angry. As long as you don't actually hurt them or don't feel too much anger too often, I don't think there's too much to worry about.

I'm not the best at giving advice either so hopefully this will help you a bit.

[mbi615]

Thanks so much Barbara for the advice!

Having friends around definitely help but we've tried talking about it to the teacher and everything, but they just keep telling us the same thing: just ignore them. And it's hard telling someone else about it, coz these two girls will know that it is us dobbing them in and they'll just get their other friends to pick on us.

Maybe the teachers are right, if we ignore them, they might actually stop hassling us. Anyways, I'm just trying to forget about them and getting along with my life coz it just brings me down thinking about them.

[Eli]

I'm sad, upset, and above all angry. I've had it, this is IT, I've already given up so much I shouldn't have had to, and I'm DONE. I'm left fighting for a "dream" I don't even really want, because there were like 14 things above it on the list, but fine, just don't even try to change this one a little bit. I don't care anymore, I'm not listening anymore. I wish we could declare an official Real-life-people-leave-Eli-the-****-ALONE-and-shut-up-day.

[rising-flame]

hugs to Traceve and Eli

mbi615 - the teachers should be doing more than saying ignore it, they should be speaking to the girls and sorting it out. I remember being at school, and being bullied, my reaction was to spend my lunchtimes with my head in my brothers old notebooks writing a novel. By the time i was 14 I'd written a full length novel, pretty much all in lesson and break times!

Generally bullies are insecure people who pick on others to make themselves feel better. I watch 17 again the other week and there's a great scene where Zac Efron takes on the bullies. Well worth it for the laugh (and maybe the tips)

[tessalove]

**Hugs to traceve** I really hope you work things out, And please please don't cut yourself! Be happy in who you are, I know i don't know you much, but ive seen you around, And your post really touched me.

Uggh, I have to go back to school in a few days! So not looking forward to it, I hate it, they way there is all we different groups and if your not in with the orange, black eyed popular people then, your a geekand theres no point in even going! Grr! they do y head in, In first year they were my best friends, cuz my brother was at the school, and he was popular and everyone wanted to know me just so they could build there popularity.

The when it came to 2nd year i got split classes from them, They tried to stop me hangin out with frineds that i made in my new class, they sai they wern't cool! But i ignored them, So now that im at my last year we have been split for different subjects, and they just annoy me so much!! Ugghh!

Problem number 2! My lovelife sucks!

I was going out with a guy for a while, then we broke up, I still see him and its very awkward, but its ok, Atleast we can still talk

But i really want a BF, I know that sounds petty and all but i do. I like being in relationships, But im just so ugly no one wants to go out with me

I was kind of going ot with a guy from my youth group, but im not to sure about him, I reall just think he wanted to be "With" me to get a good rep, he's just joined and if he was "Kissing me and holding my hand" I thinkhe thought he would be percieved in a good way. Idiots!

But then theres another guy that i really like, The whole youth know i like him, Well most of them do, I don't think he does, (Well i hope) But i don't think he likes me, I'm not nessisarily skinny or pretty! I dnt know, i guess i'll just have to see.

Sorry about the long post, just getting my thoughts out, I can't really talk to anyone about this, Im a shy person, and im afriad of what others might say, There are a few ppl i can talk to , but i feel comfortable posting it here

[Lise]

I hope things are getting better for you, Shan. *hugs*

I never liked school, right from the word go but especially the girls that were there. It was very catty but I just tried not to think about them. I, think, if you stick a whole lot of teenagers together your asking trouble.

I don't know if this going to just be a rant or I'm asking for advice. Anyway, lately, I've been having panic attacks and getting really nervous about things (anxiety) so my doctor referred me to this place so I can have a chat about things and see if they can help with ways of dealing with things which is good. She put me on medication which, I suppose, is meant to calm me down but I keep getting really anxious about silly little things. The other lady I went to see gave me stuff to read so I know some of what's going on and a website to go on and find ways of dealing with things differently but it's confusing me making me feel worse because I can't really understand it.

Argh, why are things just such a mess?

[Di]

Is been a year, since a friend passed away..

I hope her family and friends are coping a little better now,with the loss of an awesome person Frankie was.

Think about you a lot . x x

[Georgia]

Traceve I'm so sorry you feel that way. We've been learning about this stuff in health at the moment, and it's perfectly normal to get confused. It was just a mistake, you don't have to cut yourself over it. Life is extremely valuable and you shouldn't waste it. You could try talking to your group of friends, because it seems like one of them took advantage of you while you were drunk. Or you could try and find new friends, so that you don't have that problem. Sorry, I'm not too good at advice, but I hope that helped.

Elainea, I'm going through some of the same problems as you are. We have a group of people at our school who are like that. They think they are really popular, but I don't think they like themselves or each other that much. I would just ignore them, and stick with your true friends. Life is too short to hang out with people you don't like. When you finish school, it doesn't matter what kind of person you were in high school. When you go and get a job, it doesn't actually help if you were a popular person, or a person with a small group of amazing friends. Again, sorry. My advice isn't that great, but you can always talk to me El.

At school, I sit with both guys and girls, and we used to be a really close group, but now we are kind of drifting apart. We moved spots, and we now sit next to this other group, so some of my friends are drifting over there. I don't mind if my friends have other mates, but it's causing fights, because some of us don't like the others. It's getting really awkward, because I never know who to talk to, and I'm always left on the outside. When I walk up to a group and try and join in, I'm still on the outside. It seems like I'm tolerated, but they don't really need me there. I've tried talking to some of my friends about it, and they promise that they'll include me, but then it keeps happening and they forget their promises. Right now, writing my stories is the only escape, because I'm not enjoying school anymore, and my home life isn't too good. Talking to Elainea helps as well, so thanks

[tessalove]

Thanks Gee! Im not good at advice either, But you just need to let your friends know your there! Try talking to them, again, if that dosn't work, I'm not sure sorry, just tell them how you feel and hopefully they'll understand. But if you ever need to talk, im probably better at advice talking to you on MSN hehe.

Time for another rant!

Grr, School, I hate it! I love my friends and all the bant, but them theres the classes, and the stupid people that are just so up themselves, just because we don't ge ton like them were seen as geeks! (When were clearly not, no where near infact).

I'm really strugglin with the work at the minute, especially maths, I'v talked to my teacher, and explained to her that I was struggling, she understood and told about them taking out the group that I should be in, so I have to be in higher, i told her i wasn't happy and she said i can move down to foundation, but then i fell stupid, and all my friends are in the higher class, and all the b**ches are in the one i would move into, but im going to have to, so thats pretty crap!

Then i am in a youth group, its basically like a big group of friends, ive been at in for 2 years now, And i've loved it, but now im noticing cracks, its a christian group, and ive started to really notice everyones other side, its judgemental, bitchy and sometimes just awful. But there are some genuine noce people at it, and I love everyone really!

I met my best friend in it, She has started to drift, not in a bad way, she just hasn't been feeling good, and shes not happy with herself at the minute, also her BF lives 4 hours away and she only sees him every two weeks for the entire wekend, which is when the youth meets. But her other best friend, and a lot of others have been talking about her, baout hows shes left (when she hasn't offically) its not very nice to listen to people talk like this about your best friend, I have been spending a lot of time with her when i can, and i can understnad why she wouldn't want to go, i have tried to tell the others, but the just don't listen and would rather talk about her!

Also, my best friend in youth, is drifting from me, Another girl started a few months ago, I invited her, and now its her and my other firend, I never get invited anywhere, she doesn't offer lifts, if i am in the car and theres not enough room its always me who gets kicked out! So i started to talk to a sort of new girl who joined, She's my friends GF, And now i feel the others are jealous, and the keep giving me funny looks when im with her! I can't help that i have other friends, and she is now one of my best friends, Im, not going to leave her as she doesn't know very many people in the youth, and she told me she finds me really easy to talk to, and that im the nicest person there, because i was the only one that bothered to talk to her the first time she came. So im a bit annoyed!

Im sorry for the long post!

Rant over

[~Zoe~]

I don't need advice as such, I'm just really annoyed with something... well someone..

I live with my aunty (my mum's sister) & this is about my aunty's boyfriend, basically I don't think he is a very nice person, but he and my aunty obviously love each other, they have been together for 6 years now.

Colin can just be really moody sometimes, and he used to shout at me for no reason at all, he used to do it when my aunty was either at work, or upstairs. He does'nt do that now as last year, he just kept shouting at me for no reason and he wanted me to move out, so he really made me cry. So I was up at my other auntys house, and I was talking to her, and I just got that upset because of him, that he made me be ill, and have a panic attack, & I had to be given a paper bag to blow into it, so Mandy, the aunt who I spoke to, she had a word with Colin and Debbie and, he does'nt do that to me anymore, but the thing is.. he came back in from work early and I was only on my laptop downstairs, and he just looked into the living room and just stared at me, it really creeped me out, the way he just stood there and looked.

I'm 24 now, so I should have my own place & independence really, but because I have epilepsy, that is why I live with my aunty, so she can keep an eye on me, even though the epilepsy is mild.

As my mum told me that my aunty does'nt want me to leave, its just because of Colin, & I don't want to live with my nan and grandad, like it was suggested last year, but I'm not, not after what I got told last night, but that is really serious, so I cant explain about that on here.

Don't know what to do about Colin though