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[MTerry]

Wouldn't say I suffered from social anxiety, but I was pretty shy before. Think I'm getting better at it, though. And I've kinda accepted that I prefer to be a loner, not everyone can be the super social center of attention, either.

It can't be pleasant if you carry that around everyday. Have you tried to see if there are any steps you can take to kinda "break loose"?

[lino]

Postnatal Depression

Does anyone know how to help someone who is suffering from postnatal Depression?

My sister had about 8 weeks ago another baby. But this time it is the first time she is having a postnatal Depression. She is tired, weak, cries about little things and is afraid of quit a few things. She knows herself that it is more then just feeling low.

I want to help her but it is hard since i am living in another city. But what can i say or do for her. And more importantly what can she do herself? I really want to help her, and she really want to get better.

I also have kids, but never had this problem. So anyone had this experience or any tips, it would be really helpfull.

[DinerLandlord]

I've never posted in here before, but I'm just feeling really weird and horrible tonight. I don't even know if I want any advice, maybe I just need to get this off my chest to make me feel a bit better. Last night I met a guy in a club and we hit it off big time. Without getting too graphic, let's just say it was lust at first sight. Anyway, I left the club before him, but got his number and said I'd text him to arrange meeting up next week. He seemed really into me and wanted to meet even earlier than that, like this weekend. All day today I haven't been able to stop t hinking about him, but I've gradually started to feel worse and worse as the day has gone on. Maybe it's like I'm coming down from a natural high from last night, I don't know. I just feel really anxious and depressed. I am a bit over-tired, and this may be adding to my poor mental state. Also it's been a long time since I've been with anyone, I've only had one serious relationship which ended over a year ago. Not that anything is definitely going to happen with this new guy, but I might be worried about the prospect of something new happening. I've also worked myself up into a bit of a state about whether he is actually interested in me or not. I texted him my number after I left, but have heard nothing from him since, so now I keep thinking that A) I took his number down wrong, or B) he gave me a false number, or C) he just isn't interested at all.

Ugh, I just feel so gross now. I can feel this horrible sensation in the pit of my stomach, and my mind can't stop racing with all these stupid thoughts. GAAHHH!!!!

[~Lynd~]

I can't really help but I sympathise.I hate when you text people and they don't reply,it's rude and the person could at least acknowledge you.You aren't the only one it happens to if that helps...

[MTerry]

Meeting people and number exchanges can be so tricky, it's awful. Realistically though (which is a pretty hard perspective to keep when you're in a situation like that, I know), I would think you're reading too much into it. Maybe he's just afraid to look "desperate" or whatever, and just wants to wait for a little while before replying? It's pretty stupid, but it does happen.

And if you got the wrong number down? Well, it is theoretically possible, but does it happen a lot?

Giving you a false number? I doubt it. Why the hell did he take initiative and interest in you then? And if he wasn't interested, why pretend?

Also, he could just be having cold feet, and having similar thoughts like yours. The possibilities are numerous.

[DinerLandlord]

^ Thanks, I think you're right, I'm just over-analysing things. If I hear from him then that'll be great, but if not it isn't the end of the world. A decent night's sleep has perked me up now and I feel way better.

[-Kevin-]

^ Thanks, I think you're right, I'm just over-analysing things. If I hear from him then that'll be great, but if not it isn't the end of the world. A decent night's sleep has perked me up now and I feel way better.

I noticed you said "Without getting too graphic, let's just say it was lust at first sight"

If something sexual had happened then maybe this guy just got what he wanted and that was all he wanted? I'm just saying because a lot of guys are the same. Theres usually only one thing they want and as soon as they get it then they most likely wont be seen again. Harsh but true I guess.

It would be nice if he texted you back and prove himself as not like the rest of the male population though

[charmed60]

Postnatal Depression

Does anyone know how to help someone who is suffering from postnatal Depression?

My sister had about 8 weeks ago another baby. But this time it is the first time she is having a postnatal Depression. She is tired, weak, cries about little things and is afraid of quit a few things. She knows herself that it is more then just feeling low.

I want to help her but it is hard since i am living in another city. But what can i say or do for her. And more importantly what can she do herself? I really want to help her, and she really want to get better.

I also have kids, but never had this problem. So anyone had this experience or any tips, it would be really helpfull.

I'm so sorry to hear this It's really good that she knows something is wrong herself though - usually making someone see something is wrong is the hardest part. I noticed you're from the UK so I presume your sister has a Health Visitor?? Get her to contact her, she's the best person to talk to and can give her lots of help and contact numbers for support groups. If that doesn't help then get her to see her GP.

I'd also advise her to get involved in new Mum groups, it will really help her to meet up with other new mums and see she's not the only one who feels like it. Having reasons to get out of the house will help also and give her a chance to socialise and do things for herself rather than just being Mum.

[DinerLandlord]

^ Thanks, I think you're right, I'm just over-analysing things. If I hear from him then that'll be great, but if not it isn't the end of the world. A decent night's sleep has perked me up now and I feel way better.

I noticed you said "Without getting too graphic, let's just say it was lust at first sight"

If something sexual had happened then maybe this guy just got what he wanted and that was all he wanted? I'm just saying because a lot of guys are the same. Theres usually only one thing they want and as soon as they get it then they most likely wont be seen again. Harsh but true I guess.

It would be nice if he texted you back and prove himself as not like the rest of the male population though

Well we didn't go home together, we just made out all night and got a bit touchy-feely, so I don't think he got what he wanted completely. I agree though, he might just have been after sex, and when he didn't get it on the first night he might not want to bother with me after that. I've decided I'm going to text him on Sunday to see if he wants to meet up next week, and if I get no reply I'll know it's a lost cause.

[Hannah-K]

I am finding school really hard at the moment,i am being bullied and dont know what to do about it. My so called friends are talking about me behind my back and they know this but still talk. I am always the one left without a partner and it is really bugging me. i get called names and they dont take the fact that i love netball and play it 5 times a week seriously, they always ask wy i havent done something and i tell them why and they laugh. They are hypocrites as they always stick up for each other but not me and i am getting really upset about it.