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[rising-flame]

I am finding school really hard at the moment,i am being bullied and dont know what to do about it. My so called friends are talking about me behind my back and they know this but still talk. I am always the one left without a partner and it is really bugging me. i get called names and they dont take the fact that i love netball and play it 5 times a week seriously, they always ask wy i havent done something and i tell them why and they laugh. They are hypocrites as they always stick up for each other but not me and i am getting really upset about it.

hang in there, i know it's hard, but it won't last forever. I've been in a similar situation to you when i was at school. Have you tried confronting your friends about them talking about you behind your back? It's possible that there's a reason they're doing it (stupid i know but since when are people ever logicial) it could be that they don't think they're seeing you enough, and they're jealous of how much time you spend playing netball.

Are you being bullied by other people as well? Is there a teacher, or an older pupil you can talk to? I know a lot of schools have anti-bullying programmes set up by pupils which can help.

Good luck with it all.

[Georgia]

I know exactly how you feel. I had a friend who confronted me about the most random thing (fairly sure it was because I didn't have their names in my msn display name, despite the fact I wasn't in their's). In this "confrontation", she admitted that my other friends had been annoyed about this for weeks as well, and basically told me that they had been talking about behind my back for weeks. Well, to say the least, I got annoyed, and let her know, and the whole topic was dropped.

I'm fairly sure they probably still talk behind my back, as I've had to listen to some of my other friends bitching about people as well, but I don't let it concern me anymore. I hated that they made me feel bad, and I vowed that I'd never do that to someone else. I don't talk about my friends behind their back, and when one of my friends included me in a conversation when they are doing just that, I don't say anything.

I think it's just teenagers, and you have to stick in there. Sorry for putting my rant in there, but I wanted you to know that things can be better. Maybe you should either tell them that you hate it, or find some new friends. It sounds like your are worse than most teenagers.

[Hannah-K]

thank you. i will try and tell them but because i am the quiet one and live 20 miles away from everyone else it is a bit difficult. Luckily i will be in a different class next year which will be good, hopefully with some of my other friends. Unfortunately everyone in my class are good friends so i feel like i am not accepted in the class as i dont get invited out with them and things like that. i am in the middle of choosing my GCSE's so i am also really stressed.

[Laura]

I think my boyfriend is cheating on me I haven't spoke to him about it because all he'll do is deny it even if he is so.. I really don't know what to do about it. I know everyone will just say speak to him about it but I don't want to incase I'm wrong. Any advice?

[Georgia]

First of all, why do you think your boyfriend is cheating on you ? You don't have to tell me if you don't want to, but at least then you'll get someone else's opinion on his behaviour. Then I can try and help

[Laura]

Well, I did what I said I didn't want to do and I spoke to him about it. I rang him last night and he insisted he wasn't and then decided he was going to come over to mine cause he didnt to see and speak to me ( this was half 1 in the morning and he was drunk and decided to drive. Clever idea! ) and then he got here and kept saying how he wasn't and doesn't get why I think it and he loves me and then started crying. Lol. I think that might have been the alcohol though.

[thelonius]

I agree with Georgia with first explaining (or working it out if it's only an inkling) why you think your boyfriend is cheating. Then maybe you can approach him about the reason, rather than the cheating. For example, if he is lying to you about what he has been doing, ask him "why aren't you being honest with me?" rather than "are you cheating on me?". If that makes sense?

[-Kevin-]

Well, I did what I said I didn't want to do and I spoke to him about it. I rang him last night and he insisted he wasn't and then decided he was going to come over to mine cause he didnt to see and speak to me ( this was half 1 in the morning and he was drunk and decided to drive. Clever idea! ) and then he got here and kept saying how he wasn't and doesn't get why I think it and he loves me and then started crying. Lol. I think that might have been the alcohol though.

I agree with Georgia with first explaining (or working it out if it's only an inkling) why you think your boyfriend is cheating. Then maybe you can approach him about the reason, rather than the cheating. For example, if he is lying to you about what he has been doing, ask him "why aren't you being honest with me?" rather than "are you cheating on me?". If that makes sense?

Or maybe your just being a tad insecure...

Maybe you are worrying about nothing thats all I am saying.

[adellejefferiesxox]

I don’t know if I should be concerned or not, but lately I’ve been feeling really thirsty (it’s not like I’m drinking litres and litres of water a day, although I haven’t tried...all I know is I get thirsty) and sometimes my mouth will become dry...I wake up at night usually between 1 – 3 am to go to the toilet. Last night I woke up several times to urinate. I am fairly underweight and I’ve noticed that I’ve lost a fair bit of weight, in total I’ve lost 8kg. I’m not sure how quickly I lost this weight.(could have lost over a period of years) But I know I use to weigh 8 kg more than I do now. I get tired a lot and my legs will get itchy now and then, sometimes it’s in the same spot. Ages ago when I went to the doctors, I think my doctor mentioned I had a low blood pressure but it wasn’t a major concern as it wasn’t extremely low. Sometimes I don’t feel hungry. I bruise easily (but I think that's due to a my lack of iron intake...I don't have amenia though)/I “think” any wounds I get heal slowly. Am I over- analysing the situation?

[thelonius]

I think the best thing you can do is go to your local GP because you could look up so many different illnesses and find the symptoms that match yours and you could be perfectly fine! Or you could be ill and think nothing of it, which makes it worse because you haven't treated it. I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry about it until you know for sure. Sometimes when you're worried something is wrong, you make a bigger deal out of something you don't usually notice - such as your weight. You said it might have been over a period of years, which isn't very concerning but because you're worried, you're wondering if you should be.

I don't know anything in particular about your legs being itchy, being tired or drinking a lot more so I can't really give any advice on that sorry! I just think a trip to the GP will help clear your mind if nothing is wrong, and if something is wrong it's best you know soonest so you can treat it. Good luck and I hope you feel better!