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[-Kevin-]

Kevin, I told you not to the second time!! I was actually suprised you didn't meet anyone last night. Just don't do it again! Just stay home and speak to me on MSN! It's much more fun. And don't send me texts in the middle of the night again either telling me what happened : Nah, seriously, forget it, just don't do it again Just think what I did a few months ago ( you should know what I mean, I think.. ) and it might make you feel better

Yeah, I dont plan on doing it again anytime soon

Oh yeah, MSN could actually be more fun, depends on whos online etc etc oh and by the way I only texted you because you told me to

[Foxy]

Please keep this thread on topic and use the "General Chat" thread for more....general chat!

[-Kevin-]

Please keep this thread on topic and use the "General Chat" thread for more....general chat!

Oops . Sorry!! Just got slightly carried away.

[-Kevin-]

God . Mothers Day sucks for those that mothers aren't with them!!

Just want to say really that I hope everyone appeciates their mothers more than anything because one day she will be gone and will leave you lost!!

Anyway I hope every other mother has a great day Happy Mothers day to those mothers on the forum

[~Lynd~]

I was just wondering if anyone had an opinion on something.

A friend has been away for a few weeks during which time another friend friend requested them on facebook.They haven't spoken for a while and I think it's my friends way of trying to make amends.I don't personally think they did anything wrong but it's not my place to tell my other friend this I don't think so i'm minding my own business.

It seems like the friend who was on holidays has been on facebook last night or this morning and it doesn't seem like my other friend has been added.

Should I tell my friend that he's been on,or that I haven't looked?I don't want to lie but i don't want to get in the middle of their problems.She's not going to be on fb till at least tuesday to notice,but if she asks me i'm not sure what to say.

[adellejefferiesxox]

So today I arrived at work. I went into the office and then into the room that's connected to the office, it's the storeroom. I was sitting on the couch in there when my one of my bosses walks in. He's like "are you feeling better", I was working on Saturday but went home early. I replied "Yes". Then he gave me a lecture on how I need to stop leaving work early because I'm "feeling sick" and that calling in sick the day after that is no good. He also complained that saying I couldn't stay back at work because I feel sick or I simply can't isn't good enough. But the reason I have to say no sometimes is due to the fact is my bosses ask me 5 mins before I have to leave and I have a ride to collect me. Whenever I leave work early because I'm sick, it's usually unconvicng to my bosses/supervisor as it's not physically visible to them. Sometimes I'll have stomach aches, muscle aches, tiredness, sometimes I'll feel really flushed and hot. Sometimes I'll have a fever. So these symptoms aren't visible to employers/employees, as I'm still standing and not coughing or vomiting it's not very convincing.

Anyway... I'll start from the beginning. On tuesday I went to a friends house. Then in the afternoon I was due to go to a work meeting. We had pizza's, it was a group of us and employees children were also there. They had some pizza too. The kids were really keen on the pizzas, so they were hovering around the pizza's, breathing all over them.

So on tuesday night I started having a sore arm. I thought it was due to the fact I was carrying 4 litres of Pesi with that arm (and maybe it was because of that).

Wednesday: My neck started to get stiff and aching. Wednesday night, I could not sleep at all. I went to bed at 8:30pm. I thought I was asleep but I had in fact been lying in bed for two hrs. So it was 10:30pm. I got up had a drink went back to bed. Fell asleep.

Woke back up at 12. Then fell asleep. Woke back up at 1am. I was tired of not getting any sleep so I watched a movie in bed. 2am. I watched another movie in bed 4am...decided it was time to try and get some sleep. then finally got some sleep before having to wake up.

So I couldn't fall asleep or stay asleep.

On thursday, my neck was still stiff. My glands were swollen. My body was slightly aching.

Saturday: I had to work, I set my alarm to 7am. I was worried that I might wake up feeling sick. I was fine at 7am. So I set my alarm for 7:30 just in case. I was fine. I needed the money so I decided to make myself go to work. After all my muscle aches had disappeared. Then at 12ish I started having stomach pains. By 1pm I was feeling like I was going to throw up. My stomach was hurting, I just needed to sit down and rest. But I was busy making coffees, it was a busy day. But I just had to sit down. Anyway, I was allowed to leave early.

The thing is a lot of people have left my work in such a short period of time, many new people have joined and they aren't very reliable and are still learning how to do things. So I need to work harder to make sure everything runs smoothly as the new people don't really know what they are doing. I've been getting more shifts due to the amount of people leaving so there aren't many people to call on to work as there aren't many regular employees left.

I just got really angry this morning when my boss I felt basically accused me of faking being sick. I felt that by showing up and at least having a go at trying to complete my shift was showing a committment to my work or whatever. Instead of ringing up work and cancelling. Sometimes when I get sick, it's on and off. So it's hard to tell whether I'll be okay to work a full shift.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest. Sorry for the long rant.

[emmasi]

^Don't tell her if she doesn't ask. If she asks, tell the truth. It's not your responsibility to cover for other people, and the truth always comes out, and when it does you don't want to be the one who's been lying about it. It might be selfish, but in these situations, I ALWAYS take care of myself first. If I don't want to lie for another person, I don't.

I had a friend request once where someone I hadn't spoken to in years tried to add me. I didn't want them back in my life, but it wasn't because of anything they'd done to me, it was because of some serious things that they'd done to a couple of my friends. I didn't want to snub her completely because she'd never done anything to me personally and we did have some good times together, but I couldn't have contact with her anymore because of what she'd done to them (they are both still my best friends), and because of the attitude she had that it was "all high school stuff." It really wasn't... So I sent her a message to explain all of that and wished her well and never spoke to her again.

What I'm saying is, sometimes things aren't directly your problem, but they will be if you don't intentionally remove yourself from the situation. You don't want two warring friends trying to make you choose sides. Just stay out of it and don't let them drag you into it. When in doubt, keep the truth on your side.

[~Lynd~]

Thanks Jem.I don't think i'll have to choose so i think i'll stick to the truth if asked.

Now I have another problem.I was just talking to another friend and found out she told her boyfriend something about a friend that she didn't want her boyfriend knowing.Nobody likes him and she's been told before to keep our conversations to herself.

This ended with me telling her to eff of and hanging up the phone.She's tried calling a few times since but I was talking to my other friend who wasn't impressed.I've turned my phone off for now because i'm so mad.I probably shouldn't have lost my cool but i'm sick of this crap where she acts like he's an angel and treats the rest of us like rubbish.I've got no idea what to say when i do eventually talk to her.

[rising-flame]

Have you confronted her about her telling her boyfriend stuff? If you tell her stuff is confidential and she insists on telling other people the only thing to do is not to tell her anything. She'll soon learn when she finds out she isn't told anything.

I'm feeling really unsettled this morning and i have no idea why.

[thelonius]

Well done on getting that job Emmasi, it sounds like fun and really creative. I'm really sorry your parents reacted that way and it sounds like something they repeatedly do. It does sound like you really need to get out of there but financially aren't in that position at the moment. I'm pretty sure Centrelink don't give you rent assistance until you have signed a bond, but it's a good idea you're heading in there to talk to them about everything. Are you still studying? If you are and you're living out of home you'd be able to get a fair bit of Youth Allowance (depending on your parents' income too) + rent assistance. Plus you have a job which will definitely help. You're best placed to make the decision of how risky it is you move out and have to put up a bond, deal with roomates, landlords etc. But if the situation at home is causing you so much stress that the stresses of moving out aren't as bad, you should definitely go for it. Maybe you'll get lucky and can take your cats with you.

I can see why you'd be so upset and pissed at your parents, especially since they didn't apologise. But it seems like they are the type of people who may have trouble with that and maybe that's why your dad was giving you the block of wood. Maybe it was his way of saying sorry, even though it was a pretty lousy one. Neither of them had any right to make you feel like that You're not a useless person, everything is just so damn complicated! Just find out as much as you can, all your options, and then you'll be best placed to take whatever step you'll be taking next.

I really can't understand how you feel suicidal (in the past or now) and I won't pretend to, I just hope that you are able to feel better about yourself and everything else happening in your life - I sincerely mean it. I know a lot of people on the forum feel this way too but your comments are really intelligent, amusing and funny and sometimes you come up with stuff I would never have thought of. You may feel worthless but from my point of view, you seem like a really insightful, smart and funny person - am that's only coming from someone who reads this forum.