bell Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 thankyou both, i know for me this letter is one of the hardest things i am going to have to do but i know i can do it and need to. its scary cause camillas old best friend's dad died and then her mum when totally off the rails and now camillas mum went of the rails when they got divorced but now, im scared to think what may happen. sorry about all the questions but heres 2 more: flowers or no flowers and should i mention that i know some one who went through the same as she is going through, (slightly different circumstances but...?) could it help or not?
bell Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 thankyou both, i know for me this letter is one of the hardest things i am going to have to do but i know i can do it and need to. its scary cause camillas old best friend's dad died and then her mum when totally off the rails and now camillas mum went of the rails when they got divorced but now, im scared to think what may happen. sorry about all the questions but heres 2 more: flowers or no flowers and should i mention that i know some one who went through the same as she is going through, (slightly different circumstances but...?) could it help or not?
randomuser Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 I can imagine its not going to be easy, trying to find the right words to say but they'll come to you. Personally I think flowers are a nice gesture, shows thought. One of my mates bought me a cd I'd wanted for ages so I had something to destract myself so maybe if there is something like that your mate likes (and you have the cash) you could get it, or a little teddy bear to remind her your there for her. If I was you I'd mention about the other person you know, she might not want to know, which is fair enough, but she might also appreciate having someone to talk to that has been through something similar, at the end of the day you've got nothing to lose by telling her and it might really help her. One final thing, I'm not sure how old your mate is but theres a website that might help, its designed for young people/teenagers etc who have lost someone and you can post messages on there and talk to other people that have been through similar things, you can also email one of the team for support, it - www.rd4u.org.uk
bell Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 thankyou i will definatly mention the website though i may leave it for a week so the numbness has worn off, thankyou also for mentioning the teddy bear cause it has reminded mee of a perfect little pink one i saw shes 16 and to be honest everyone has been amazing were getting her a massage and someone is stay ing in the house everynight to be with themi just hope that she can stop blaming her self over time thankyou so much xxxxx
randomuser Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 Thats cool, glad I could be of some help! Sounds like she has some great friends around her and hopefully in time she will realise that she is in no way to blame. x
Penie Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 It is alright, you seem like a really good friend!!! Flowers is great shows you are thinking of them!
bell Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 thankyou . i was actually talking to my mum and friends and instead of flowers were going to get a tree for there garden in memory of him for her and her mum to see even though he and her mum are divorced she at the moment is living off coffee and slleeping pills . thankyou both so much hug hug kiss kiss
Penie Posted June 22, 2006 Report Posted June 22, 2006 That is a brillient idea very very thoughtful and that letter is very very nice!!! Hugs and Kisses back!!
MarMar Posted June 25, 2006 Report Posted June 25, 2006 I've been going steadily downhill again over the last 2 weeks or so. Yesterday I had an anxiety attack in puclib and slept for 2 hours afterwards, and would slept longer if The Boyfriend hadn't made me stay awake. I also haven't been eating - living perhaps on one small dinnerish meal a day + some fruit.
Guevara01 Posted June 25, 2006 Report Posted June 25, 2006 Aw Merc. Do you know the reasons why you haven't been feeling too good recently, or is it just everything? You can always talk to us, never feel like you can't. xxx
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