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[Traceve]

There's so set way to deal with it (ie no 'supposed' way). Everyone deals with it differently, and each of these ways are equally valid.

That may be true, but how longs does it take for everything to 'go away' ?

[Jess]

Again, there's so set time period unfortunately. I guess it depends how close you are to the person that's died, and just how long it takes you, personally. There's no right length of time, so to speak. Some people take longer than others.

[Traceve]

Again, there's so set time period unfortunately. I guess it depends how close you are to the person that's died, and just how long it takes you, personally. There's no right length of time, so to speak. Some people take longer than others.

Thanks..but it has been 4 months. Im so sick of always feeling down

[Jess]

Awww...I'm sorry! I don't think the pain truly ever 'goes away'. You just have to find a way to channel it into positive things and remembering all the happy times...have you had counselling or anything?

[Traceve]

Awww...I'm sorry! I don't think the pain truly ever 'goes away'. You just have to find a way to channel it into positive things and remembering all the happy times...have you had counselling or anything?

Its ok.

No I havent, my mum would freak.

I did do a few things that I thought would help a the time, but it didnt it made things worse..ansd when I told a friend I did it, she freaked and told my mum, luckily my mum didnt believe her.

Otherwise she would have hit the roof.

[Jess]

*hugs*

If the grief is still genuinally affecting your life, then why would your Mum freak if you wanted to take steps that would help you to feel better? Is there no one else you can tell? A teacher or other trusted adult?

[Traceve]

*hugs*

If the grief is still genuinally affecting your life, then why would your Mum freak if you wanted to take steps that would help you to feel better? Is there no one else you can tell? A teacher or other trusted adult?

Well my trusted adult told my parents, what I was doing. (she was the friend)

and there are no teachers I can talk to.

I dont really like talking to people about it as I feel uncomfortable.

The grief went away for a month, but now that things are a bit bumpy for me, It came Back.

[Jess]

You've managed to tell people here, so that's a start. I know it's easier to say things when you can't see the people that you're talking to, but you've made a step in the right direction.

[Traceve]

You've managed to tell people here, so that's a start. I know it's easier to say things when you can't see the people that you're talking to, but you've made a step in the right direction.

Yea I guess..but it kind of backfired when she told my parents.

Thanks for the help though

[MarMar]

It must have been the medicine the doctor gave me for the ringworm two weeks ago. One of the side effects is loss of appetite/weird taste from everything you eat and drink. Of course, I must have gotten that one. Better than yellow skin/jaundice, I have to say. Of course... it's stress/depression as well. I feel so much better now that I feel thinner.

But, I guess it started with food not tasting good. I made one of my favorite meals a little over a week ago, took one bite of it and threw the whole thing in the garbage. It tasted like crap. So, I continued, or... stopped, all depending on how you look at it. It became easy. I didn't need food.

Now, I don't know. It's not an eating disorder or anything. I don't want people to worry over me. I'm not something to worry over, generally speaking. But, if it's not a disorder, what it is? It makes me feel ashamed. Ashamed of having the best boyfriend in the world, but all I think about it how I can wriggle my way out of the next meal.

I still eat, only not as much as before. Today I had 1/3 cup of mashed potatoes (tasted yucky), 1/2 portion of this spagetthi-stuff we bought, some strawberries and a small portion of dinner (chicken and rice with some sauce). I've eaten some chocolate, though, when we came home and now I feel... disgusting.