Emmadolly Posted July 16, 2006 Report Posted July 16, 2006 I really feel for you, i really do sweetie. I also think that the time has come for you to have a chat to your GP. As things will not progress with you, until you sort it out. This may sound harsh to you, and other members reading this. I read a post by you three months ago, you said that you would rather be told the truth, than be told a load of nice stuff from people just doing it for the sake of it. I am going to be honest with you Mer, you are such a nice bright girl, you have everything to live for. Nearlly everyday you feel down about yourself, it is a shame you feel that way. Things will not get better over night, and not on their own. Please go a have a chat with your GP, as i hate to see you like this. You need to get yourself sorted before the family comes along. I had no problem until i had post natal depression, if i was down before my babies came along. I do not think i could of coped at all. Emma I hate to say it, but I think you are wrong to be giving Mar the advice you have here. She has said several times that she doesn't like to go to her GP because she doesn't trust her, and that she seems to dislike Mar. In general, she makes her uncomfortable. The GP isn't right for everyone. Mar has said it's not for her. It almost seems like you are pressuring her to go to a GP because 'it worked for you'. People all over the world deal with depression in their own way. And that's exactly what Mar is doing. And Mar, sorry I talk about you as if you were never going to read it in this post! I'm not trying to put preassure on Mer at all. I was trying to help her, granted talking to your GP is not always the comfortable thing to do. But when i read how upset she feels, i want to help her if i can. I suppose when your a medical nurse, you will always be a nurse. I suggested for her to talk to her GP, as a week ago, she posted that she would rather people be honest with her, instead of saying things for the sake of it.
MarMar Posted July 16, 2006 Report Posted July 16, 2006 I don't think you got Mez's point. You don't know me, so you won't always know what the "best thing" for me is. Being a nurse does not make you into a all-knowing god.
Emmadolly Posted July 16, 2006 Report Posted July 16, 2006 I don't think you got Mez's point. You don't know me, so you won't always know what the "best thing" for me is. Being a nurse does not make you into a all-knowing god. I don't think i am a all knowing god at all. We all have our problems to deal with, yesterday i had a missing teenage step daugter. She went missing from 11am sat morning, and turned up at my house this morning at 9 am. You are right i don't know you at all. If i have upset you, with my advice i am sorry. I thought that was what you wanted by the amount of posts you made regarding yourself. Also you may be reading my posts and taking offence, when there is no malice in them. Because if you really new me, you would not be upset by them. As you have pointed out i don't know you, so then you have taken offence. It goes both ways.
~Lynd~ Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 *Takes deep breathe*ok Merc you said be honest so i will.Please don't take offence i don't mean it meanly,but i wouldn't take offence to what Emmadolly said.By the amount you've writttten in here about your problem i'm assuming you want people's advice.Granted it might not be what you want to hear,but it's her opinion.What is it you want to hear?Nothing anyone says seems to make any difference. I don't know what you're going through,so can't say anything to make you feel better so won't,but don't get mad at her for having a opinion when it's what you're asking for from what i can see. I'm sorry if that sounds horrible,i didn't mean it to be.
Emmadolly Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 Mer if you are here, i was only trying to help you at the end of the day. I was not being a god when it is regarding your life. I suggested you having a chat with your GP, as your problems have not changed in the last seven months. It is up to you if you go to see them or not. It was a suggesstion, and it is up to you if you want to go down that road. I was just being honest with you, as there is so many of your friends listening to you, which is great for support. They only listen, and not really help you IMO.
Emmadolly Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 You also have to understand and take into account. You post your feelings in the girls and the moan, and also in the support threads. So therefore i think you are asking for advice because the threads are all about you. Then when i am honest and tell you my opinion (in trying to help you). I am made out as the bad person. We ALL HAVE problems in life. I had a daughter missing, she may be a step daughter. But i have known and loved her since she was 6 months old, she is now 15. But i did not post it all over bttb.
flutterby Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 I don't think this thread is supposed to deteriorate into this sort of nit-picking and attacking, I'm not blaming anyone in particular for it. Merc maybe just wanted to tell someone and get it off her chest, I may also be reading the situation wrongly. Merc, you sound like you have a lovely supporting friend in Terje as well as him being your boyfriend, he sounds very loving and caring so try explaining to him what you are feeling unless you have already, in which case that is great, if anyone I think he will be the person to help you through this. nb: Emmadolly you have mentioned your daughter going missing a few times so don't have a go at Merc.
Traceve Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 I don't think this thread is supposed to deteriorate into this sort of nit-picking and attacking, I'm not blaming anyone in particular for it. Merc maybe just wanted to tell someone and get it off her chest, I may also be reading the situation wrongly. Merc, you sound like you have a lovely supporting friend in Terje as well as him being your boyfriend, he sounds very loving and caring so try explaining to him what you are feeling unless you have already, in which case that is great, if anyone I think he will be the person to help you through this. nb: Emmadolly you have mentioned your daughter going missing a few times so don't have a go at Merc. Can everyone please stop having a go at Emmadolly, she is only trying to help
Pierced Musie Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 I have an ultrasound scan appointment on Wednesday. I'm scared that if they can't get a good reading that way I will have to have an internal scan. My sister says that it won't come to that but if it does I can tell them no. Am I freaking out over nothing? I'm really scared. Edited to Add: And no one was having a go at anyone. Emma was trying to give some advice because she thought it was wanted. This is a support thread and it's sickened me how Emma's posts have been picked apart and, in a way, spat on. Not cool at all.
astogirl24 Posted July 17, 2006 Report Posted July 17, 2006 How bloody rude Mercury Girl - if you don't want advice from Emmadolly then don't post in a support advice thread. I remember when you joined this forum and you've a lot of moaning since then. Surely your old enough to work this out by now. Emmadolly stop apologising. She claimes no-one knows her but she posts about herself contantly so surely people will have some input.
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