Traceve Posted July 19, 2006 Report Posted July 19, 2006 It isnt my first love, I have had 2 boyfriends before, none of them worked out as this other one is taking over my life
claire_louise Posted July 19, 2006 Report Posted July 19, 2006 I feel like this as well , I am in love with the actress. and its not just normal sexual love I sometimes crie because I cannot meet this person and have dreams about her and feel depressed just because i cant meet her, and I think that this will continue for ever because I am completly in love and crazy about her, and its scary because she is a girl and Ive never had any crush on boy celebrities It doesn't matter whether the person is male or female because they aren't 'real' to you, just a fantasy. If you met her you would feel a lot differently because then she would become a real person, who is nothing like your fantasy. Don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal, especially for someone your age. If it helps, I for one always think women are often much more interesting and beautiful to look at than men, particularly on screen, but I am in no way a lesbian!
~Lynd~ Posted July 20, 2006 Report Posted July 20, 2006 I think all celebrities would be really impressed to hear everyone saying they arn't real people,lol.
Frankie Posted July 20, 2006 Report Posted July 20, 2006 I think all celebrities would be really impressed to hear everyone saying they arn't real people,lol. Of course they are real people...but the image of them that is used to publicize them, or the image we have created of them in our heads is not. When we love someone in this way we idealise them...we forget that they do all the things we do.go to the loo, fart, pick their noses........ that they are not perfect...that they look dreadful in the mornings... they might have smelly feet or bad breath.... they might hate the music we love.... they might have a bad temper...they might be pretty grumpy and horrible... they may have also have different sexual oriention (think of all the girls in love with Will Young...)...Also... when we have crushes as teenagers...and most teenage girls have a crush on some one of the same sex at some point... it is not about sexuality its about wanting to be like the person we have idealised. We think if we were like them we would be likeable, loveable, nicer, better, and that everyone would love us the way we love them...if that makes sense. Its all about working out who you are which is quite a tricky business at times...if you are not particulrly confident or have a poor self image all these feelings can intensify and be very confusing.And...being in love with someone who you know you will never meet and never be with is also safer in some ways...you don't have to take risks...and you are less likely to be hurt...there is a weird sort of logic and safety in it...you will get to the point where you want to experience a real relationship as oppossed to a fantsy one though.
buffygirl Posted July 20, 2006 Report Posted July 20, 2006 I think there are times in our lives especially if we are lonely or feeling unloved as well as in need of love, that we may get a fixation on a particular character, or some celebrity, because they come across to our ideals of what we want or expect in someone special. In saying this we may expect that person to be perfect, but they is one rule no-one is perfect and we can forget that when we have a fantasy of a perfect love….. We try to build that mental image of them, and may be when you meet people you are looking for just that image of the person. In by doing this you are stopping yourself from what’s real and bye continuing that you may miss out on meeting someone special just because there not who your ideal of the perfect person. We all have expectations we have to remember everyone has flaws; it’s just up to you what takes priority you would expect in someone…. Let’s say treats you with respect lets you are who you are or want to be. The idea of a fantasy is safe but not real. Just don’t let it hinder you finding that special person!
Traceve Posted July 20, 2006 Report Posted July 20, 2006 I think there are times in our lives especially if we are lonely or feeling unloved as well as in need of love, that we may get a fixation on a particular character, or some celebrity, because they come across to our ideals of what we want or expect in someone special. In saying this we may expect that person to be perfect, but they is one rule no-one is perfect and we can forget that when we have a fantasy of a perfect love….. We try to build that mental image of them, and may be when you meet people you are looking for just that image of the person. In by doing this you are stopping yourself from what’s real and bye continuing that you may miss out on meeting someone special just because there not who your ideal of the perfect person. We all have expectations we have to remember everyone has flaws; it’s just up to you what takes priority you would expect in someone…. Let’s say treats you with respect lets you are who you are or want to be. The idea of a fantasy is safe but not real. Just don’t let it hinder you finding that special person! I dont have an set image and I dont except this person to be perfect as no one is perfect. But I do know I can never met her, I mean him and that hurts Even if I did meet her I mean him, she I mean he is taken, So whats the point in me even thinking about her I mean him. OK that post does not make any sense to me.
100%me Posted July 21, 2006 Report Posted July 21, 2006 Im really upset at the minute and I dont know what to do.I know its over something stupid but its annoying me.Right it was my brothers birthday yesterday (16th) and my uncle gave him £10 but the things is he spent like £100 on him a few weeks ago on clothes.Its not the money I care about its the fact that when I have a birthday I get nothing.I didnt even get a happy birthday when I turned 21.I dont know weather I should speak to my mum about it or speak to my uncle about it.I know its stupid but im angry. Do you think I should speak to them about this?
Cal Posted July 21, 2006 Report Posted July 21, 2006 Im really upset at the minute and I dont know what to do.I know its over something stupid but its annoying me.Right it was my brothers birthday yesterday (16th) and my uncle gave him £10 but the things is he spent like £100 on him a few weeks ago on clothes.Its not the money I care about its the fact that when I have a birthday I get nothing.I didnt even get a happy birthday when I turned 21.I dont know weather I should speak to my mum about it or speak to my uncle about it.I know its stupid but im angry. Do you think I should speak to them about this? I'm not sure what to do. But that has happened to me, and is still happening to me. I think talking to your Mum would be best.
Emmadolly Posted July 21, 2006 Report Posted July 21, 2006 Im really upset at the minute and I dont know what to do.I know its over something stupid but its annoying me.Right it was my brothers birthday yesterday (16th) and my uncle gave him £10 but the things is he spent like £100 on him a few weeks ago on clothes.Its not the money I care about its the fact that when I have a birthday I get nothing.I didnt even get a happy birthday when I turned 21.I dont know weather I should speak to my mum about it or speak to my uncle about it.I know its stupid but im angry. Do you think I should speak to them about this? I'm not sure what to do. But that has happened to me, and is still happening to me. I think talking to your Mum would be best. Try not to take it to personal, even though you feel it is. You do not have to take my advice, but if i was you have a quiet chat with your mum about how you feel. She will understand where you are coming from.
katya Posted July 22, 2006 Report Posted July 22, 2006 I think a talk wit your mum is definitly the best thing to do. I will expand on this tomorrow when I'm sober. That sentemnce took me ten minutse to write. Hee hee
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