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[buffygirl]

Hi Emma,

This is trickey in one way as i know that Danica, looks upon you as her second mum so she feels safe to confide in you, than her mum. for all the reasons i know.

That trust she has with you is good in the way a least she can confine in you as your the adult, and know her instead of a stranger.

If you go and tell her mum you know full we'll she'll proberly loose that trust in you she had, and think she can't trust anyone.

Danica has come to you because she knows what she'll get from her mum, she needs a understading ear but at the sametime a cautious one, she's still young and needs help to see that to be loved , sex is not the only way.

At least she has being sensible and took precautions both ways, im sure your advice helped there.

Have you spoken to her dad about this,, as it needs to be shared for her, to help her give her gauidance.

[Emmadolly]

Ok girls, i want some advice here. I have said before i have a 15-year-old stepdaughter, called Danica. We have an extremely good relationship. When i questioned her before in a general chat, she told me she was not a virgin, and when she lost her virginity it was in her mother's and step dads house. So i thought i was doing the right thing and contacted her mum to tell her, as she can keep an eye on her, as she was only 13 at the time. But i had it in the neck from Danica's mum for telling tales on her, and then when she asked her she said sorry to me. Her mum went mad as Danica tells me things, but keeps things from her, and she asked me to tell her if anything else important comes my way to inform her. But this woman is slightly mad

The position i am in now is slightly different; Danica spent the weekend with us, and as i was dying her hair, i asked was she using any precautions as she has been dating for 3 months. She said that she is on the pill, and also uses condoms. Even though my heart sank when she told me, i was delighted that she was taking care of herself, but still sad of the facts.

The problem is, do i tell her mum or not. Because her mother could find the pill anytime. And i will be discredited for knowing about it. As she has always hated the fact that i am closer to her daughter than she is, and turns and twists things around to suit herself, and forgets what is best for Danica.

First of all, the mother sounds like a bitch..

Anywho, I don't think you should tell her. You will probably ruin the freindship with your step-daughter. Danica obviously trusts you if she talks to you about what she has been doing, which is good. If you tell her mum, then the trust will be gone.

But, this is just my advice, it's totally up to you.

Thanks for your advice, and after sleeping on it. I will chat with Danica to see if she will tell her mum herself. If she does not, then i will stay out of it.

And CaL f, her mum is a right bitch to her. So i want to keep our relationship the way it is.

Hi Emma,

This is trickey in one way as i know that Danica, looks upon you as her second mum so she feels safe to confide in you, than her mum. for all the reasons i know.

That trust she has with you is good in the way a least she can confine in you as your the adult, and know her instead of a stranger.

If you go and tell her mum you know full we'll she'll proberly loose that trust in you she had, and think she can't trust anyone.

Danica has come to you because she knows what she'll get from her mum, she needs a understading ear but at the sametime a cautious one, she's still young and needs help to see that to be loved , sex is not the only way.

At least she has being sensible and took precautions both ways, im sure your advice helped there.

Have you spoken to her dad about this,, as it needs to be shared for her, to help her give her gauidance.

Thanks Sarah, yes her dad feels the same way about it as me. As you now personally we have had a few problems with Danica. It looks like things have turned out for the best, by her telling me what is going on in her life, as her telling her crazy mum.

[Tamxxx]

Life is depressing at times, arghh I wish that wishes would come true lol, Im getting so obessed with it Im looking up supernatural stuff on the net

[Dazacoulls]

My parents and I have just found out we might be kicked out of our house by the end of September.

My Dad's a caretaker for a local school and there's been changes happening apparently and one is that 5 out the 15 Caretakers/Gardners will be made REDUNDANT... And as we live in the Caretakers Bungalow it'll mean no job nor house.

There's a chance he'll be OK but he's Diabetic and they will take this into consideration (Although there really not allowed)... Both my parents are gutted and i'm hating seeing whats happening - Where we going to live, there's not enough time to by a place now - I doubt we could even afford it!!!

[Tamxxx]

My parents and I have just found out we might be kicked out of our house by the end of September.

My Dad's a caretaker for a local school and there's been changes happening apparently and one is that 5 out the 15 Caretakers/Gardners will be made REDUNDANT... And as we live in the Caretakers Bungalow it'll mean no job nor house.

There's a chance he'll be OK but he's Diabetic and they will take this into consideration (Although there really not allowed)... Both my parents are gutted and i'm hating seeing whats happening - Where we going to live, there's not enough time to by a place now - I doubt we could even afford it!!!

aww thats terrible, I had that happen once im my family kind of like the same thing, they were going to take our house away, and my dad was so worried thankfully my dad protested, showed documents and fighted against them so it didnt happen in he end

I think get a good lawyer, to sort out the problem

And my dad was diabetic too

[~Lynd~]

If you get a lawyer you can argue for wrongful dismissal due to the diabetes and either get the job back and keep the house or get a good compensation amount and get a new one.Maybe.sorry that probably wasn't very helpful

[astogirl24]

Actually if you are made redundant then you receive a payout. You cannot argue against this. A lawyer would be no use. I don't think you can use diabetes as an argument either, considering a 1/4 of Britian is diabetic or something like that.

On the bright side, the money he receives when he is made redundant can be used to rent another place whilst you look for a new home and job!

[becky_lacey]

I am 15 and have been bullied all my life and I always seem to be left out. I am always alone at dinner times in school and I feel that people look at as if I am a piece of dirt. I try my best to fit in, I try being myself and that doesn't work, so then I try being someone I'm not and that doesn't work. So I just feel that it must be me, that there is something wrong with me and there is absloutely nothing I can do to stop it. It got so bad that I ended up self harming, I know that isn't the way to solve things and trust me I haven't done it since but that's how low I felt.

I'm sorry to offload this here but I just needed to do it somewhere and you lot are a nice lot so I thought this was the best place to do it.

[Traceve]

You havent offened me

I was also bullied at school, mine was that bad that I left. That was my fault as I didnt try to stop it before it good to bad.

You sound like a really nice person. You dont have to someone that your not, and there is nothing wrong with you. Have you told your mum that your feeling this way?

[becky_lacey]

I did, but she thinks everything is fine now, but it's not! The truth is after a totally crap day at school the last thing I need is to come home and resite it again. I just tend to stay inside my little shell.