-Annie- Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 Okay, one of my friends has just told me that she is in love with an engaged guy who is 10 years older than her. She has loved him for like a year now, and is getting really depressed. I can't just say, 'get over it' cos she has been trying to for ages. Any advice on what she could do or what I could say to make her feel better?
Dazacoulls Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 Afternoon Guys (Or Whatever time of Day it is Where you are ) I am in serious need of Advice. Some of you might remember me talking about a friend (X-Girlfriend) who had been diagnosed with Throat Cancer a while back (You guys gave excellent advice) well I found out that the Doctors can no longer do anything for her which was a total shock for me... Apparently the Chemo and Radio Thearpy she had didn't remove all of the Cancer and there no longer allowed to use it in the same place, so its a waiting game. I don't get to see her much as she live in Essex while I live in Cornwall but I talk to her sometimes on the phone and also Text and E-Mail but it's not the same. BUT great news I'm going up to see her at the end of the month but hearing this the other day it may well be the last time... What do I do? What can I say? Nothings going to make her better I know... I JUST SOMETIMES WISH IT COULD BE ME NOT HER - I'm the one that Smokes she's never had a Ciggy in her life!!! Where the JUSTICE in that!!!
Pierced Musie Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 Don't treat her any different. Let her talk about it if she wants to but don't treat her like there is something wrong. Comfort her if it's needed. Crack a few jokes to make her laugh and keep it like old times.
Marieh Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that Just try and have a great time with her since it could be the last time you see her, and if she want's to talk, try to be strong and be there for her..'
Dazacoulls Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 Thank you guys... It's going to be hard I know - I'm going to try and be strong. There's a few others going with me who know her to and will support me through it... I do feel so selfish though I'm fusing about, WHat I'm going to do... I can't even begin to imagine what she's thinking and everything. AGAIN THIS SOUNDS SELFISH - Its great that I have got you guys to talk to you make so much sense of everything, every single one of you... Thank you!!!
Skykat Posted September 6, 2006 Report Posted September 6, 2006 Thank you guys... It's going to be hard I know - I'm going to try and be strong. There's a few others going with me who know her to and will support me through it... I do feel so selfish though I'm fusing about, WHat I'm going to do... I can't even begin to imagine what she's thinking and everything. AGAIN THIS SOUNDS SELFISH - Its great that I have got you guys to talk to you make so much sense of everything, every single one of you... Thank you!!! I agree with what Tainted Muse said about just being normal and being there for your friend. Worrying about this does not make you a selfish person. It's a normal, human reaction and it's such a difficult situation to be in. Take it from somebody who's in a similar situation to you that the best thing you can do for your friend is try and stay strong, make the time she has left about her but don't keep your own feelings bottled in either. It's a horrible time for you so make sure you surround yourself with enough people to see you through it.
-Annie- Posted September 7, 2006 Report Posted September 7, 2006 Okay, one of my friends has just told me that she is in love with an engaged guy who is 10 years older than her. She has loved him for like a year now, and is getting really depressed. I can't just say, 'get over it' cos she has been trying to for ages. Any advice on what she could do or what I could say to make her feel better?
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Report Posted September 7, 2006 Okay, one of my friends has just told me that she is in love with an engaged guy who is 10 years older than her. She has loved him for like a year now, and is getting really depressed. I can't just say, 'get over it' cos she has been trying to for ages. Any advice on what she could do or what I could say to make her feel better? Um does the guy have kids??
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