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[deadea]

Good to hear from you Cal- let us know how yer going-

[Di]

I found the MRI scan more scary and soooooooooo louder, than my CAT scan

awe bless at least they have an idea wat it is Cal, hope you feeling much better soon hun

[Jackieleanne]

Hey Cal sorry to hear your in hospital atleast now they have an idea what it is they can help treat it, and its good that your back on dairy again. Get better soon.

[aejdude]

Right now I feel like suc a failure. Things have not been good lately at the cafe - I don't own any share of it, but work the hours my boyfriend has to do (so-and-so many hours a week split between the three owners), and this has resulted in the other two owners not seeing me as "him", but as a buss-boy or similar, ie. they're making something, and don't have all the ingredients, and thus makes me go to get it in the storage room even though I do my job etc. Not only that, but once I sent a text message as soon sa I remembered that I had forgotten to take up frozen ciabattas before I left the day before, so they should do it straight away when they got in, so that there would be food to serve the customers (there were app. 5 left, but it's always better to have many than few etc). Got a text back which was rather rude etc. The next time I opened after they'd closed the day before, they had also forgotten to make sure there was enough ciabattas up from the freezer. I could go on and on about similar situations.

We haven't worked together for more than 1 1/2 month, but in that time they have ruined our friendship. I dread going into work, which is bad because I love makiing coffee and serve food - I just can't function with these people anymore. I've told my boyfriend what annoys me with them (they make mistakes but don't see it, and only yell at me when I do stuff they do), etc, and though hehas tried talking with them about it, they are unwilling to do so.

I haven't had a day off in 1 1/2 months. I've worked every Saturday from 10am-1am. They have left early, not only in the week, but on Saturday as well. They don't cover all their duties, and yesterday there was a huge scene where we (my boyfriend and I) left for two hours to go see a movie. Yesterday was our Saturday "off". They left early last Saturday. I can't really explain it all very well, sorry.

So - today I let my boyfriend know that I will not go into work on Tuesday (tomorrow being a uni-day), and that I don't want to work there anymore. I need to get a job that pays so that I can afford paying my mom to stay at home since she's unemplyed (I own half the house, and want to buy it one day, but I have to help financially). I can't work for free 40+ hours a week when all I get is being yelled at etc.

No one should make you feel like that, and you are so not a failure if anything you are only the person that has properly managed to keep the cafe running and you were doing it all for free and yet they were still yelling at you . They have got a cheek for yelling when they do less than you and get paid for it, and too right you're leaving the cafe they'll realised how good you was once they are struggling to keep the cafe going, plus you don't need all of this on top of going to uni. I hope you find a job where the people are alot more friendly and you get paid with money and most importantly respect for the work that you do.

Hi Guys,

I'm in hospital!

I was sent in this morning. and I'm staying until wednesday, which is quite annoying. I had a Cat Scan this morning, very scary. They have found out that my small bowel has an imflamation on it. So it's most likely Chrones Diesese. I'm having a tube put up my nose on Monday, which then goes down into my stomach and Bowl area. We can then determine if it is Chrones.

TThey have given me loads of fatty drinks to put on the weight i've lost. The nurse said that I will have to go on Steroids and other medication once I leave.

The hospital is very nice, because it is private. Just had dinner, twas yummy! And I'm back on dairy, so that's a relief.

Bye for now,

I'll try and pop in now and then. )

Sorry to hear you have been put in hospital Cal.

When they know what it is and whether it is Crohn's Disease at least they will know what to do and how to get you better, and it's good that you're back on dairy because most foods these days include dairy in some way so that means that you can eat most foods now.

It's good that you seem to be eating a bit more now, as it looks like you enjoyed your dinner which is good because you need to keep your strength up. Hopefully once they start giving you the fatty drinks and other things you should start to gain back the weight which you lost and hopefully be on the road to recovery.

[Jess]

Cal....I'm so sorry to hear you're in hospital! But at least now you have a fantastic chance of recovery, instead of being fobbed off from doctor to doctor with more and more medication! I'm sure you'll be back to normal in no time. And, if it's any consolation, private hospitals are nice....way better than the normal NHS ones, lol.

Steroids aren't that bad, you just end up with a medicine cupboard with enough drugs to run your own pharmacy!

But anyways, I'll speak soon

X

[Cal]

Thanks, GUys.

The hospital is really quiet now, woopee!!

I'm watching a very pink sunset out the hospital window as I type, very relaxing..

I had one of the fatty drinks and they are awful, but I will continue to drink them if they make me better.

I'll probably be on here tomorrow morning when nobody is around.

See you then.

[aejdude]

Good to hear from you Cal.

There's always someone around because of timezones!

[Mez83]

Sucks that you're in hospital Cal!!

No hitting on the nurses!!!

[katya]

I think you should hit on as many nurses as you can!

Hope you feel better soon Cal

[MarMar]

I need help.

What do you do when you don't want to be around anymore, but you can't talk to anyone about it?

And that no one has any idea what's going on?

Hey, Tess.

I'm sorry for reading that you're not having a good time these days. I am certainly not the best person to ask for such advice, as I've been suicidal, and at times, self-destructive, for many years. But - maybe you are able to muster the courage to get help, which I, sadly, am not.

First off - what makes you feel this way? Has anything in particular happened lately, or has it been like this 'forever'? Think a little about it, write it down if necessary to get your thinking working properly. Exactly what makes you feel bad about yourself and your situation? While you're at it - is there anything that makes you laugh, smile or even enjoy just a little bit? It can be the way your cat meows at you in the morning, your favorite meal, anything that makes you happy!

If things seem impossible to work through on your own, or if you'd like help with it, you should talk to either your parents (yeah, I know), your GP or a counsellor at school/a teacher. I don't know how it works where you live, but either of these should be able to get you the help you need. Friends are also good listeners, and even though they are not professionals I'm sure they'll stick by you in your time of need!