Support Group

[-Tess-]

maybe get a new councillor if they pressure you.

[Marieh]

I'll give you the same advice I gave -Tess- a while back: Go get help! Seeing as you are no longer in school, you cannot go to the school councillor (?). If your parents have already taken you out of school, they must be very-well aware of the situation, and maybe they can help you get help?

My parents have got me some help but it doesn't really help much. I do see a councillor ever so often but they don't understand. They push me to do things that I can't do, which makes things worse. I know that I have to try and do the things that they tell me to do, but they constantly put pressure on me, which doesn't really help.

You should tell them that the pushing isn't helping you, that you wan't to talk, but on your own terms. I know exactly how you feel when it comes to my borhter in law.

[Guevara01]

^^ I really think that's one of the good things about this site. You can come on here and be yourself, make friends and still feel safe about it. You can talk to people about your problems and they can help you through them, without the anxiety of being face-to-face.

xxx

[MarMar]

Yeah, I know what you mean, Guevara! I'm not nearly as confident and out-going in real life.

[Guevara01]

Nor am i, but i think some of that is self-induced! xx

[Cornwallgirl]

Thanks for your advice. I find it a lot easier to go out when everyone is at school and I find it easier when I don't know the people. I hope that I will get over it some day. It's so frustrating when you feel like you can't do things. It's definitely a lot easier to talk to people on the Internet; they seem to understand a lot more. Councillors are fine but they have never experienced what you are going through so they don't really understand.

The problem is whenever I get nervous I tend to get migraines, which isn't pleasant.

Thank you so much for your advice everyone. You’re all so nice.

[MarMar]

I've met some of my best friends over the net as well, and I'm so lucky that I'll get to meet 4 of them this November.

I guess you could say that my problem is that I don't have all that many RL-friends. Well, there's the people I work with, but I have a really hard time expressing myself and my feelings with anything but written words. Also, it seems that talking/writing in English helps a lot, which.. makes stuff a little complicated as I, and the RL-people I know, are Norwegian.

[Guevara01]

I think it's easier to make friends this way. My mum sometimes says "How do you know people are who they say they are", but to be honest, real "3D" people () aren't always who they say they are.

I genuinely think you can have a great friendship with somebody you've never met face-to-face, and it is in no way worth less. I don't consider people either as "real" friends or "BTTB" friends. It's all the same.

I find it a lot easier to talk to you guys, everyone here is very welcoming and considerate to others xxx

[Guevara01]

Sometimes you only find a few good friends that you really connect with and thats better than a big group that just dont get you.

I completely agree xx

[Cornwallgirl]

I know that this sounds strange, but when I get nervous I constantly need to go to the toilet. This gets annoying after a while and makes it harder again to go out.

However I am gradually getting better.

Early this year I went on holiday to Barbados and I was fine for the whole holiday. When I came back home though I found out that my Gran had cancer and she died a few months ago. This set me back a bit. I am starting to get better a bit more again now though.