Love Problems

[~Lynd~]

*Sigh*I'm currently sitting here wondering weather i should text this guy i like for his b'day today.I've written it and i'm hovering on send.Yes, i know it's just a text,lol.Stupid huh!

[jack+martha=trooluvv]

We did love each other. I'm sure we did. Or at least I loved him and he really liked me. But I was too scared to tell him and he was too scared to tell me and I think he's moved on from me and he likes another girl.

I'm so stupid.

[rachel&kim]

You think he's moved on. So he might not have done. And if you haven't moved on there's a huge chance he won't have either. Were you ever together properly? I know it's terrifying but I think you should talk to him about it and just find out where you both stand.

[Adia]

Well from what you've said it sounds like you mean a lot to him. My advice would be to talk to him about it, however scary that is. It doesn't need to be anything heavy, just ask him if he has any extra feelings for you, if he does, then great! If he doesn't then you'll be able to recover the friendship and as you said, you can start to move past it. I say go for it!

Thanks for your advice. I've never really confronted a guy about anything like that, and you're so right - the thought of it is so scary! (Hence why I have never done it!) I'm really conflicted. I like being single and I'm not really looking for a relationship or anything, but I get confused when he says or does something that indicates more than just plain friendship. Maybe its just a deep friendship... and I'm just totally in love with him as a friend.

I have some tickets to a concert coming up, so I might ask him if he wants to come with me. Then if there's the right moment I might just say something. In the mean time, I'll try not to think anymore about the whole thing...

[Pierced Musie]

I have a crush on a lady on the same college course as me. It is quite possible that she is gay or bi but I'm frightened of going near her

[jack+martha=trooluvv]

You think he's moved on. So he might not have done. And if you haven't moved on there's a huge chance he won't have either. Were you ever together properly? I know it's terrifying but I think you should talk to him about it and just find out where you both stand.

I should, but he is the type of guy who is very shy about that kind of thing (so am I really) and I'm worried he'll freak out if I tell him.

That's why I like him for crying out loud! He isn't lusting after every Little Ms. Big Boobs that comes walking along!!!

I'll see where it goes, and if I think there's a possibility he might feel the same way I'll tell him.

[-Kevin-]

I have a crush on a lady on the same college course as me. It is quite possible that she is gay or bi but I'm frightened of going near her

Yes its very hard to tell someones sexuality which in turn makes finding a relationship harder.Everytime you look at someone you just try and guess "is he/she gay?".But I think you should approach her and try and build a friendship and maybe then get an insight into her personality.Its very scary and if someone I fancied tried to talk to me I would just start stuttering and become very nervous which would send out the signal that I am a bit strange.

[Varsha]

I'm sorry to hear that !

[Varsha]

I'm sorry to hear that

[rachel&kim]

I feel like I should make this thread my second home!

Anyway, today's grumble is about my boyfriend, yes the one I broke up with and was so happy to be finally back with and everything is going heaps better and we're more in love than ever bla bla bla.

The thing is, we were broken up for a bit over a month and I just found out that he got with (I'm assuming slept with) someone else in that time. I know we were broken up and I was the one that initiated it so I can't be upset with him about it and I'm trying my best to be cool about it but man it hurts! I was so depressed in that month I couldn't think about anyone else. And I know it's different for guys but still

And that's not really the problem. The problem is that I didn't find out from him. I found out from a mutual friend that just let it slip. So now I don't know whether or not to confront him about. I know that in that month what he did was none of my business and he hasn't outright lied to me. But I can't help but feel betrayed. Is this me just being hysterical? I'm not sure. Anyway, anybody got any advice? Do I talk to him or let it go?