Do you want kids?

[sharksarecute]

Here's a question to those people keen on having kids: What would you do/how would you feel if you're baby was born with a disability, not only a mental disability but a physical one too. Let's face it the majority of people picture their baby a regular healthy baby so how would you react in this situation and have you consider these possiblities?

You start to love you baby way before they are even born... from that moment you feel them growing in you you love them. It would be a parent's worse nightmare, but I think most parents would adapt out of the unconditional love that they feel for their child.

And thank you Miranda... your words encourage me ! xxx

[Lise]

It's hard to know what you'd do in that situation without being put in it but I think I'd just end up loving the baby despite everything.

One of the girls I work with has just had a baby with downs syndrome and she's the cutest baby and so happy.

[Miranda]

Glad you liked my words Dotti and sharksarecute, I thought maybe I'd said too much and people would think I was preaching at them.

I'm definitely a convert to parenthood, from being really anti- to pro- and I've realised I am actually much stronger than I think and can deal with much more than I ever imagined.

[ish_the_angel]

Here's a question to those people keen on having kids: What would you do/how would you feel if you're baby was born with a disability, not only a mental disability but a physical one too. Let's face it the majority of people picture their baby a regular healthy baby so how would you react in this situation and have you consider these possiblities?

I have 3 kids so far. Arielle is 4, Cameron's 3 and Madison is 1.

Cameron is disabled. He is Autistic and has a sever global development delay. He has communication difficulties and often has extreme meltdowns because he can't cope with the world moving at a different pace to him. He's not even close to being toilet trained, and it as attending a special early education program 2 days a week.

It's hard work, and if i could take away the autism i definitely would. he's a gorgeous kid and i worry that i'm not going to be able to handle him when he gets bigger (he's quite aggressive at times).

But I think that there must be a reason I was given a child with special needs. I have definitely learnt a lot - patience, persistance, flexibility...

It did make me think for a moment about having any more children. I know there is a high chance, particularly if we have another boy, that they might also be autistic. But I'm going to have at least 1 more anyway. If it happens I know I can deal with it.

[martha-jack]

Here's a question to those people keen on having kids: What would you do/how would you feel if you're baby was born with a disability, not only a mental disability but a physical one too. Let's face it the majority of people picture their baby a regular healthy baby so how would you react in this situation and have you consider these possiblities?

I have 3 kids so far. Arielle is 4, Cameron's 3 and Madison is 1.

Cameron is disabled. He is Autistic and has a sever global development delay. He has communication difficulties and often has extreme meltdowns because he can't cope with the world moving at a different pace to him. He's not even close to being toilet trained, and it as attending a special early education program 2 days a week.

It's hard work, and if i could take away the autism i definitely would. he's a gorgeous kid and i worry that i'm not going to be able to handle him when he gets bigger (he's quite aggressive at times).

But I think that there must be a reason I was given a child with special needs. I have definitely learnt a lot - patience, persistance, flexibility...

It did make me think for a moment about having any more children. I know there is a high chance, particularly if we have another boy, that they might also be autistic. But I'm going to have at least 1 more anyway. If it happens I know I can deal with it.

I really admire you for being such a strong parent not many people would consider having another child if one has a disability so it shows what a great person you are!

By the way Cameron is one of my favourite names I intend on calling one of my children if I ever find the right girl.

I would love to have children one day, but I think for the foreseeable futor I need to focus on what I really want out of my life. I would also consider adopting children.

[mel,lie]

i know this topic is for younger people lol

but i have to boys steven 11 and david 9

i was only 18 when i had my oldest son lol

[CaitlinBurns1995]

I'd love to have around 4 kids but not quite yet as i'm only 18 and not even had a proper boyfriend yet and when i have kids i want it to be with someone who i love and will stick around

[Guest]

I'd love to have 2 girls and 1 boy but I'm only 23 and never really had a boyfriend.

[xGlowingAngelx]

No, I don't want kids. I don't like them and I'm not very good with them either. Like DinerLandLord I cannot handle children misbehaving. I snap way too easily when I'm around them and I just feel that I wouldn't know what to do half of the time. I know this because I have a little brother who's 6 and he always brings out the worst in me. I could maybe consider having one if I felt secure enough with my "parenting skills", but I don't, so no kid for me But if I were to have one, I'd probably have my first when I'm around 25, but at least before I'm 30, simply because my mom had me when she was 26, and I've always had a close relationship with her and I want to have the same kind of relationship with my kid (if I have one that is ).

I didn't post this, but I may as well have! It's me, 100% Way too impatient for Children. Far too selfish, too. It wouldn't be fair to a child, to be honest. I know people say you might think differently as you get older and settle into a relationship etc and maybe it will, but that time wont come any time soon.

IF I was to ever change my mind, then I'd rather that happened at some point between now and maybe mid 30's. However, that's an unrealistic "If". Like the above poster, not wanting children doesn't mean I haven't picked names. (7 boys names, 3 girls names! )