Frankie Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 Sorry to hear you are feeling like s**t Mar...lmy advice would be to try to concentrate on helping to make his grandad's last few weeks OK. Is there anything he likes or wanted to do? If you focus on doing something you might find it easier to deal with. And don't worry about moaning to all of us...its what we are here for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffygirl Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 (edited) That's ok Merc, all you can do is be a surpport. You said you were felling depressed! are you? Edited March 24, 2006 by buffygirl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarMar Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 I have not been to a doctor or psychiatrist, but I have more than enough symptoms, yes. I am depressed. Thanks for the advice, Frankie. I try to drag him out of the house, but it's difficult when he doesn't want to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffygirl Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 Merc, i totally agree with Frankie, She's said it in one. In what way will your man not go out of the house? What i mean is is he in denial? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 Seeing your Gp might help you. You need to look after yourself..... Isn't seasonal affective disorder common in scandinavia due to lack of sun light over the winter? My Mum would tell you to eat more fruit and veg, eat chocolate and get heaps of exercise....thats her cure for everything! Terje sounds like he needs to do something. a friend of mine made a memory box when her grandma was dying. They talked about things and taped stories and put things in it that her gran wanted her to have, and the found they laughed a lot doing it which helped both of them...., maybe Terje and his grandad could do something like that....I dunno....you know them so would have an idea whether its their sort of thing........its just a suggestion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarMar Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 He says himself that he doesn't know how to repsond to the news. He's going to work, he eats.. sometimes etc, but now, when I asked him if he wanted to come watch Home & Away with me (I'm with the iBook in the bedroom because I'm not too well), he didn't want to come. Ok, it's not his favorite show, but he usually ends up watching it with me. I had to talk to him a long tim yesterday to get him to come with me to a friend's house, and he did end up having a decent time. Nt the best, but it took his mind away. I don't know. I guess he needs some time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guevara01 Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 I made a memory box when my nan died, it still smells like her, oddly enough. And although she died in about 1997, i still cry about it sometimes. Mar, i can't really say i know what you're going through, although members of my family have had cancer, i was too young to properly understand. I agree with Frankie though, you need to take care of yourself. As does your boyfriend. I realise this must be really difficult, but you have a lot of support here, and probably at home. If you need someone to talk to, we're always here. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Di Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 What, no posts in The Golden Oldies for over a week?! Well, I'm ill today - been in bed all day with flu; can't stop coughing and sneezing and I'm aching all over. poor Si, hope you feeling better soon hun. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pierced Musie Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 *offers nice warm cookies and hot chocolate to Si* Get better soon honey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffygirl Posted March 24, 2006 Report Share Posted March 24, 2006 Merc, that girl Frankie is talking a lot of sense. Depression is a hard hurdle to over come but you have to try and pinpoint what is making you depressed. I could be wrong here but at the moment are you giving your all to those you care about and you feel a need of support yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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