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[Guevara01]

Okay, i need to rant. I'm depressed.

My brother is always doing things to upset me purposely, and because my mum always backs him up, it makes me even more upset. I'm painted to be the bad guy. And i don't want to sound horrible when i say this, but why can't they give me some space and get the hell out of my life for a while.

Everything i do is wrong and never good enough. I say that i can't wait to leave and go to uni, they don't believe me, but i'm actually counting down the days. If i said this to my mum, she'd get really upset, because she doesn't even release that she always backs up my brother. My dad is oblivious as usual, and i'm sure he isn't really that bothered.

My brother just really bothers me. I have this thing with privacy, whereby i don't like letting people in my room or touching my stuff. My brother has a go at me because i won't lend him my laptop - it's not as though he has a working computer, the idiot - but he only wants it, because he knows i'll say no.

Then my mum yells at me, for christ's sakes it is mine. Selfish, i realise. But you really don't know the hell he puts me through.

*waiting for the better feeling to come, but its not. I want to cry *

x

Edited February 20, 2006 by Guevara01

[Emma_B]

I lived with this for 15 years (my brother is 15!). Believe me, it will get better. My brother has his problems, he has ADHD and Aspergers, but it still doesn't make it any easier. I know how it feels to always be the bad one! I'm at uni now, and not having the best time at the moment, but I am happier here than I would be at home. When I do go home for the weekend it's like being 10 years old again. It can be really hard.

When you get to this age, no one really empathises with the "My brother is a pain" thing anymore, but it can really get you down. It does me. I found that I had to just detatch from the situation. I started to absent myself from the family, I just didn't get involved anymore, I stopped interacting with them. I don't know if that was a good thing to do or not. I wouldn't necessarily advise it because it caused everyone a lot of pain, including me.

I think if you do just focus on Uni that will help you get through the next few months. Now, with a few hundred miles between us, my relationship with my brother is a lot better. We chat on MSN all the time. That really helps me, because I know now that I haven't lost him forever just because we weren't close as kids.

I don't really have much advice. I'm not much help! Just know that one day very soon you will be an independent adult, and this won't be an issue anymore.

Hope that helps a little. I do know what it feels like. You can PM me if you get so stressed you need to scream!!!!

[Guevara01]

Lol thanks for that. I feel a bit better now. I have completly distanced myself from my family now though, i hardly say hello and goodbye to them anymore. Except when my brother isn't here, then i sit with them all the time. I think my brother has ADHD as well. They ask me why i don't want to go to the local uni, well this is why lol

Clare xx

[Emma_B]

My Mum was all "You have good grades, you should apply to Oxford". No Mum, I can't think of anything worse than another 3/4 years at home, thanks! I'm going to Manchester, it's only 3 hours away!

Hope things get better. At least you haven't got much longer at home. When I moved away, it took all the pressure off, and like I said it's much easier to get on with my family now there is space between us.

[NuttyNeighbour]

Hello again Golden Oldies. I really haven't been popping in here enough the last four months, so I just thought I'd say hi.

[MarMar]

Don't think I know you... Hey, by the way, and good night (going to bed).

[Guevara01]

Believe it or not Manchester is where i want to go! lol

xxx

[NuttyNeighbour]

Goodnight!

[Emma_B]

Yay, come here! It is super fun! I love it. I do not love my flatmates but I think that's just bad luck because everyone else I've met is so col! What do you want to study?

[Pierced Musie]

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