The 'have a moan' thread

[jenlee]

I get distracted way too easily. There is so much I need to do but so much I would rather do instead and the stuff I would rather do somehow always manages to come first

[Barbara]

I was supposed to have lunch with a friend today. But once again, she stood me up. Well, she sent me a text message to cancel our lunch when I was already waiting for her in the restaurant. Her boyfriend had asked her to go to lunch with him and she said yes. This is the third time this happened in 3 months time.

She doesn't understand why I'm angry with her. I think I've got every right to be angry. She has known me for years. So she knows that if I'm angry, it's got to be because I have a good reason to be angry.

We were supposed to see each other in Brussels. She knows I don't live in Brussels and I have to go all the way over there. It takes about 1 hour (she knows that too). She could have cancelled our lunch this morning. I wouldn't have had to go all the way to Brussels for nothing.

I totally understand she wants to spend time with her boyfriend who is a really nice guy (she has had some horrible boyfriends in the past). But that doesn't mean you have to forget about your friends, especially when you're the one who organized to meet up for lunch in the first place. She sees her boyfriend practically every day and we only see each other once in a while. One of my other friends is not talking to her anymore because she stood her up a few times too. I don't want to stop talking to her because I like her and we have been friends for years but I do think she should a bit more considerate towards her friends.

[Laura]

Barbara, I know where your coming from. My 'best mate' does that to me. She says she is going to stay the night at mine then her boyfriend rings her saying hes going to stay at hers and she cancels. And once she was at mine and her boyfriend called saying he wanted to see her and she left at about 10pm. It really annoys me. And everytime I go out somewhere with her she invites him even when I told her I didn't want her to because she will be with him. And if he isn't with us, she gets about 20 calls from him. I would be soo annoyed if my friend did that to me after I drove an hour and waited for her.

[Barbara]

^ I'm sorry it happens to you too.

When I'm dating a guy, I don't forget about my friends. Spending some time apart now and again is good. That way, my boyfriend can do guy stuff with his mates and I get to do girl stuff with my friends. I've never stood up a friend because a boyfriend wanted me to do something with him. If I made plans with a friend, I'll stick to those plans. Especially when it's a friend I don't see very often. And I can see my boyfriend later or the next day.

[Laura]

Yeah I agree. When I have a boyfriend I don't do it. And this mate would probaly get really annoyed with me for doing it and think its allright for her to do it. I don't think they should spend every second together, but her boyfriend is really possesive and hardly lets her go out without him.

[~Lynd~]

^I just come here with that exact same moan,lol.My bestie has had her bf for about a year and we've gone downhill.I don't see her much and when i do she's on the phone with him a lot.She cancels things coz he doesn't want to,blah bah blah.

The other night she asked me to go out with her and him next weekend and i said no because i've already said i'll go to another friends chrissy party and if i cancel that my other friend will be peeved.I also don't really trust her not to cancel at the last minute if he says he doesn't wanna go anymore.I'll be alone when i could be with other friends.

Now she's just called me asking if i'll come to dinner with her on friday night.I ummed and ahhed about it and she seemed kinda peeved.Well excuse me if i'm sick of setting myself up for dissappointment all the time.She said she'll call back later but i can't even trust that to happen and i'm not sure what to say if she does.I'm sick of her hurting me even if it is unintentional.I feel like second best.And like Barbara's friend,she doesn't understan why i'm mad.

Man that felt good,lol.

[jenlee]

I have to go to the docters tomorrow morning and I'm pretty sure I know what the exact outcome of my visit will be. Makes the whole thing a complete waste of time and money but at the same time I can't not go...if that even makes any sense

[Barbara]

And like Barbara's friend,she doesn't understan why i'm mad.

^ We should cancel appointments a few times and see if they like it.

I'm at my aunt's waiting for a delivery guy and I'm so cold. Usually, it's way too hot in her apartment and now it's too cold. I would put on my jacket but then I'll be freezing outside.

[Lise]

I rung up the doctors this morninto get an appointment and the lady that I talked to was so rude. I felt like hanging up on her.

I probably should be packing for my holiday but I have no energy to do it.

I think I'm just sick of this year. Too much bad stuff has happened to so I can't wait to get away and have a holiday.

[KirstyEkua]

I'm sorry Barbara. I understand why you're angry, it's not nice of your friend to do that to you. Maybe try and talk to her, maybe she doesn't think she's upsetting you so much.

I have an exam tomorrow in International Development which i'm so not prepared for. I'm trying to study now but clearly it's not working!

I just spoke to one of the girls i taught in Ghana last year (and who i'm now sponsoring through a scheme i set up with the girl i worked with there) and she wasn't really happy. She kept saying 'if you were here we'd do this and that...but your not.' It makes me so sad because all i want is to be there...i miss it like crazy. I miss the girls i taught, the friends i made, they're like my family now.

And she is under so much pressure to do well in her exams. I'm desperate for her to do so, so she can go to a good senior high school, it would break my heart to think of her spending her life selling in the village. But i want her to be a kid too and have fun and it upsets me she just can't (she's only 12) I still worry about the girls i taught there, if they're getting enough food, water, if they're doing well in school, etc.....it's hard for me to let go. And after talking to her i can't stop thinking about them all. My girls.

And im worried about the papers i handed in last week, which is silly becasue i can't change it now.

I worry i worry too much.